My wife blocks the incoming calls from our son that is going thru a divorce. She says she cannot stand for him to call when he is drinking, plus she does not want to discuss his soon to be x wife with him. He was in the Iraq war, and he saw some things that I did not see in Viet-Nam. When he tried to talk to his mom about it, she told him that the United States should not have been over there in the first place. This is not what he wanted to hear. He served our Country Proudly, and now this has all happened between him and his mom.
He told me Dad you are the only one that will listen to me. I told him that he could call me anytime, but do not let the drinking get ahead of his motions and feelings. Yes, I have to agree that I have cut him off when he starts repeating himself, but I do it for his good, or at least I think I do.
He is 36 years old, and he wants to meet someone to have his own child with, but he thinks that he is too old for that.
Has anyone experienced this?
2006-10-02 13:46:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he can't call u, why not go over to him and talk to him? U of all people should understand where he's coming from and right now, he needs the support of his family and unfortunately, he's not getting any. So if your wife won't be there for him, then perhaps u should since u pretty much know what he's going thru. He just wants someone to talk to right now and this is the time when he needs his family the most. Just don't be an enabler with his drinking and if anything, try to help him help himself.
2006-10-02 13:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you are going through all of that. I am sorry that so many do not appriciate what he has gone through to get to the state hes at today. As far as having a child at 36, I do not think he is too old. Alot of people have childrent at that age. You only fail when you give up and being a soldier, he should already know that.
God Bless our troops....PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE!
2006-10-02 13:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is lonely, in pain, and is sunk in alcoholism as a dfesperate way to cope-- granted it is a huge trial on a family-- but he is desperately reaching out to the only people he has--you--and the fact it takes being trashed to call you shows just how alienated he is--he needs help and is crying out to you for it-- but it sounds like you are turning your back on him-- I would hazard a guess this would not be the first time in his life from you- but part of the pattern that makes him who and now what he is-- be parents first- he needs your love and help now--right now-- judge him from your high horse like the rest of the world later-- while I do not like the war in Iraq- I would never turn my back on my child in crisis--you are his parents- regardless of how old he is-- now act like it!!! Help him before you lose him, and I promise, right now, keep acting the way you do and you will------------------------
2006-10-02 13:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wifes brother was in the navy and spent most of his time on subs, so he took to drinking a lot. after he retired, it got worse until one day the alcohol demons won and he blew his head off. so tell your wife that that is her son, to listen to him and dad as the head of the family drag his butt to counseling and aa cuz till he gets sober he will never have control of his emotions. i was in Iraq in 91 and yes he did see somethings that he might tell u but with mom's f'd up attitude she has no clue as to what combat/war does to some one.
2006-10-02 13:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is messed up and you want him to get married and have a kid? He needs extensive counseling. He did not get enough when he came back home. He should be proud of his service and not be wallowing in self destructive behavior. Your wife is right in not enabling him. Encourage him to seek help immediately.
Good luck!
Gran Gran
Proud mom of a soldier serving in Iraq.
2006-10-02 13:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um.. Mabey when I have kids.
2006-10-02 13:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
o yes, plenty of times...
2006-10-02 13:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋