im a 22/m/white. i have an urban style and look. i wear baggy jeans-but they dont be saggin, tims, j's, have a fade haircut, and have diamonds in my ears. for some reason white girls seem to have a kinda negative reaction to me. they seem to be acting cautious or nervous. i'm not gangsta though. i'm a psych sr in college. im going to be a juve delinq counselor. i work 40 hrs a week. i don't get it. im a cool guy who loves to clown around n gets along with everyone. but like when i just try and talk to them at school they have this bad reaction. its like they got something against me. its like they judge me from the onset. i just don't understand. why this is?
2006-10-02 13:38:55 · 13 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you're a psych major, then you should already know why they are reacting negatively toward you.
More than skin color, in our present society, mannerisms and culture are a defining trait. So, if you look the gangsta part, it is reasonable to assume that they've already decided that you must be playing that role.
When you consider that most college age females are not into the "gangsta" look (baggy clothes and such), it stands to reason that they would avoid someone approaching them who presents themselves in that manner...
The truth of the matter is: the "urban" look, as you describe it is generally associated (stereotypically) with lower educational levels, and since most college age women are seeking men with higher education.... well... you're a psych major... I'm sure you can put it together.
2006-10-02 13:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
there are fairly some questionable human beings available those days, and us females each and every so often could be somewhat extra careful. the way you're dressing now appears holding you again, because it projects both lack of self assurance or the sensibilities of a real ghetto wanna-be. i'm no longer telling you to modify your complete seem, yet you're for sure a transforming into professional. you should gown like it, and enable your smooth tutorial area teach through added regularly! attempt dressing in a denim jacket over a magnificent pair of slacks each and every once in a lengthy time period. Jazz it up with some bling of your individual. accessible be you, yet seem a lot extra sparkling and pulled at the same time. i'm particular females of all ethnicities might want to love that. good luck! :)
2016-12-04 03:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're not carrying the "urban" facade convincingly,and coming off as a fake? The style of which you speak is born from a background that precludes most (but by no means all!) people from attending college.
Are you sure it's just White women that you're having a hard time with? Or are White women the only women you're paying attention to.Women from any walk of life will deny you a second look if they feel that you're not genuine.
It sounds like you're trying too hard.Quit tryin',quit mackin',and you'll probably find that after a while more than one gal will be trying to get YOUR attention.
2006-10-02 13:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Danny 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They say that you have less than 1 min. to make an impression on people. Judging from the way you describe your appearance, you look like some kind of punk wannabe. Take the earrings out, get a respectable haircut, and get some jeans that fit. If you want a certain audience, you have to dress to attract their attention. Right now you look some HS jr. thug.
2006-10-02 13:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you sound cool/ My reaction to you would be more than positive one. I think they are losing their self-esteem in front of you and therefore reacting in a lost way.
But I would say this is true for many girls. Like when a guy starts talking to me, even though I like him a lot, I would still be very distant and somewhat stern in the beginning. Kind of like letting him know right away that I am not "like that", you know? And then, if the guy keeps talking and I feel more and more comfortable, then I start to smile more and engage in conversation/ My point is, don't give up right away; the first impression is just the set of social rules we girls have to follow.
2006-10-02 13:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well.....ya ready? For 1,if that's the way you talk,"they don't be saggin",WANNABE. 2,maybe lose the Tim's.....WANNABE. 3,lose the diamonds in the ears,WANNABE. Of course it could just be me,but maybe the WANNABE thing is driving the white girls away.
2006-10-02 13:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Terri R 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously immature! You are on the right track. Finish your studies and get your ducks in a row... then they'll be flocking all over you. The right one will come along when you least expect it. and it will be RIGHT!! Good luck in the future!
2006-10-02 13:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the diamonds, let your hair grow out and wear regular fitting jeans.
Then see what happens.
2006-10-02 13:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like they are reacting to your dress or your speech. Just be yourself and you will find the right women whether she is white black or green.
2006-10-02 13:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by mss04 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
probably because you are a poser.
and if you say phrases such as "don't be saggin'" you sound foolish and uneducated.
2006-10-02 13:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋