I have a wonderful husband but I have a problem I dont understand. Sometimes I want him to get violent(and not just during sex). I have a part of me that feels a need to be "below" him,so to speak. I wasnt beaten as a child. Any other ideas?
2006-10-02 13:38:46 · 26 answers · asked by lola s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try telling him what you want. if this doesn't work, there's always julio the pool boy.
2006-10-02 13:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by sebastian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mascochism, I beleive. Look it up, but I read your beads, I feel that way too. Wait, not just during sex? Even so, I do kind of understand, maybe he's too nice and affectionate and you want him to be a bit macho sometimes? There's nothing wrong with you, but your husband is the one you should tell.
2006-10-02 20:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should seek professional help.... You obviously have low self esteem. Maybe some event in your past has caused u to feel like u are not worth being loved the right way. If this is the case u should seek help
2006-10-02 20:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by bettiboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just plan bored and you think by bringing pain into your world is going to bring you pleasure it might cause a divorce or death something are NOT to be brought into life you can change up your sex life by role playing a little more,, If that doesn't work then try counseling.
Their are woman and children out there wishing the abuse would stop and your welcoming it. You need JESUS.
2006-10-02 20:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have masochistic tendencies. Play-acting during sex can turn some people on, as long as it doesn't get violent and both people feel comfortable with it.
Still I would suggest you talk to your husband and/or get counselling.
2006-10-02 20:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have some real issues
don't pressure him to that sick game
your opening up the floodgates of demonology and your illnes is making your marriage turn into unhappiness . forcing a mate to do this can be harmful, and if you keep forcing him to stuff hes not comfortable with he'll leave you
can u spell D.I.V.O.R.C.E u mentally sick lady
get some help cus u seem to have a love of drama and the need to be oj simpson battered
2006-10-02 20:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel more superior than he does all the time. You want your man to take charge and be THE MAN. If he hits you makes him weak, lesser than a man. Now if he becomes alittle more controlling, then that may do the trick. Let him know that you want him to be more in charge. Step up and be a thuggish man. Beating you is crazy, you don't want that!!
2006-10-02 22:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....wow! You have issues that need to be addressed by a professional ASAP!!
I realize that there are submissive women out there, but dam n! WANTING him to hit you.....that is just stupid. I apologize for being rude, but do you understand how many women out there get beaten by their husbands everyday. They live their life in complete terror, and you are asking for it??? You need to figure this out and fix it!!!
2006-10-02 20:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your father talk down to you and/or your mother?
Did he get violent with her?
Now, if you are just talking about an occasional spanking,
that is just all in good fun, so to speak.
2006-10-02 21:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Crosscheck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help. If you get too violent there will be consequences you are going to regret a lot.
2006-10-02 20:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you want ? start walking on your knees or kick his nuts to get punished. Just see a Special doctor of people behaves to help you or go to the Church for help and
God Bless You.
2006-10-02 20:44:40 · answer #11 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋