before i found out my boyfriend was cheatin on me the sex was great u could say it was love makin he would kiss me all over after things got rocky and i found out about his fling its like thing are diffrent before we use to meet like twice a month sometime a week and it was great he knew just what to do now his fling has move back home and we have patch up the relationship the sex sucks and i have to always feak it we get together must be 5 times a week and he would not even touch me like that we use to kiss untill our lips would be num now he want even kiss me during it i ask him if there was someone else again he said no i ask him if it was me he said he dont know could it be the sex was great cause he was seein someone else i even throught about cheatin on him to get what i want and so i could feel love can someone tell me how can i spice up our sex life or make him want me not just for a quick relief because his sweet heart is not there
2006-10-02 13:34:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl!!! Either break up with him or go to www.cosmopolitan.com!!!
2006-10-02 13:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by ←Betty B→ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in.. then that is entirely your choice. My husband and I recently ran into this problem where I was lacking the passion I was used to. I found out.. when it really blew up - that he was bored. Not that the sex was not good.. but we got too comfortable with eachother and doing the same things over and over that it got boring. SO you need to spice it up. Buys some books.. actually helped me.. buy some nice outfits, nice lingerie. Find out things that he would like to try that you never did.. something new.. could be a new position.. a new location... a new toy!! I bought 2 toys (to use on him).. and I listen to what he wants and needs. The passion is back. You need to both be mature about the situation and communicate openly. IF there is no communication.. it's bound to happen again since he apparently is not getting something he needs. Good luck!
2006-10-02 13:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mel and Ed 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you thought about it maybe being you who isn't feeling as passionate? I would be terribly hurt to find out my husband had cheated and if I tried to make up with him there would always be a part of me that couldn't get past it, so maybe you're still feeling hurt and sending him signals that you're hurt and he doesn't want to push you. He also probably feels really guilty or at least he should. I know it's hard but you need to have a really long discussion about your relationship together and see if it's worth saving. Only if you can fully forgive him will your realtionship be great again. Good luck and sorry this happened to you.
2006-10-02 13:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds really serious and not so great. Maybe you should break up. There's nothing you can do but show him affection and do whatever you did all along. If things change because of him and he won't tell you what it is you should leave him. Don't let him use you like that. Plus he cheated on you, I think it'd be less heartbreak for you if you just split.
2006-10-02 13:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by alley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all cheating is a very bad thing, if your boyfriend had these feelings for you he wouldn't have cheated on you. Sounds like a long distance relationship. My advice to you is that things will never be the same until you stand your ground as a woman and let him know that you love him. Don't allow yourself to be second in his life demand to be number one in his life. That other woman will take your spot. If the love is still there in your heart. I say fight for love and when you fight for love you will smile again, make love again, and he will do all those things again.
2006-10-02 13:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by sassy s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has been shown that gym relationships, which are based on sex, only last about 6 months. Under those circumstances that you described, you should not feel guilty at all, since it was his idea. Don't feel guilty because his plan backfired on him.
2016-03-18 03:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How stupid are you? Do you not value your life at all? I mean, you may as well jump off an overpass into oncoming traffic if you're staying with this scumbag. Do you have no brain? Also...punctuation is your friend. Look into it...and you're the reason scumbags like him keep cheating on people. You don't give a ****. You make me sick. *vomit*
2006-10-02 13:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by Orlando Fitzsimmons 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're nothing more than a sperm receptical now. If you're not "in love" with the guy, what are you doing to yourself? Get on with your life, find someone else who cares about you and you him. Stop letting yourself be used by this guy...have some respect for yourself.
2006-10-02 13:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have some respect for yourself. Get out of there and find another guy to have numb lips with. There are like 200 billion more out there.
2006-10-02 13:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You guys need serious professional help.
I would've just dumped his azz for the cheating alone, but you're still with him, so....
2006-10-02 13:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋