In middle school I had a lot of friends and about 4 best friends, but now that I have started highschool some of them have changed and I don't feel like we are as close as we use to. Me and my four best friends use to hang out a lot, but now I feel like they have changed and are starting to be mean. I really want to make new friends where I can have fun with them, and do things after school. I am a really nice person, and I'm not hard to get along with, what is my problem? How do I make new close friends?
(I don't really want to be in the 'popular' clique because they will just get me into trouble, but I don't want to be a 'nerd' either.)
I have made some new friends, but I don't see them enough where I can actually hang out with them at lunch, or afterschool.
2006-10-02 12:54:58 · 19 answers · asked by Sonya 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi. My first thought is not to worry about your old friends. As people move on into high school most of the old relationships change. People go in different directions, and that is ok. But to make new friends takes some time, so that's why you feel like you are floating right now. But be patient. There are lots of kids out there and some new people are just around the corner. Just be true to yourself. Be who you want to be and treat yourself with respect. In no time, you will be busier with friends than you have been before.
2006-10-02 12:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
be a friend to make a friend. I felt the same way when i switched schools. I didnt have any friends. After I had made some, the next year they became very mean. Now I hang with the new kids and they are much more fun than mean popular kids. And the good thing is we arent nerds but we arent popular.Just remember to stay in God's will and thank him when you make new friends. All things happen because of him so be greatful in everything.
2006-10-02 13:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by dalmatianfest 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have always been someone who "knows" everyone but has few close friends. In high school/ college I realized that I was "Trying" too hard to be what I thought others wanted and, because the people I attracted were drawn to something that wasn't truly me, I was never close with anyone.
Being yourself sounds like such a cliche but it works, (unless you are a total freak!) - which I am thinking you aren't! People YOU would want to be close to will be drawn to the real you, and the other way around. Keep involved in school activities YOU enjoy and be the kind of person you would want to be friends with and it will work out.
Congrats on NOT wanting/ needing to be "the popular chick" - that's just a repressive way to go.
Cheers and keep smiling!
Good luck!
2006-10-02 13:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by SugarByte 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Most high schools have clubs or sports after school. Find out what there is and choose one or two. Its not a life committment, you only have to visit a few times and see if you like it. It will be a chance to meet more people. Even if there is a sports game, you can watch and chat with the others who are there.
Another possibility is to invite two or three people to your home for a snack after school or maybe a weekend lunch. You can do this every week or two, inviting different people or the same people, until you get to know them better.
2006-10-02 13:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by old c programmer 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i'm gonna be a sophomore. so freshman year... is particularly super in case you build self assurance. you may desire to be courageous. and consult with people. highschool's stressful in case you have no longer any buddies. consult with people in school... smile at them... say heyy whats your call... in case you basically moved tell them "i basically moved this summer season... did you flow to ____ center college? sounds like all of us's coming from there!" and verify out making jokes... if there are any thrilling memories, narrate them. starting to be a member of golf equipment help. discover NEW people... and im no longer in any communities yet i nonetheless have super buddies.
2016-10-18 09:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School hasn't been back for many weeks, so give it time, it will gel and friends will fall into place as time goes on. Be as socialable as possible, ask you mom if you can have a couple of friends over after school or for a sleepover...just a thought.
2006-10-02 12:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Lunch. It's a beautiful class. All of the groups sit together. Find one that looks ideal for you. Listen in on their conversations to see which one you are most interested in. Lunch is like a shopping mall for friends. After you find the group you like the most, sit down and join in on their conversation.
2006-10-02 12:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Try to find someone who seems to have the same style and personality you have and invite her to come over to your home, or go to the movie, see how you get along, if that don't work invite a new friend...........eventually you will find one that you will enjoy hanging out with.
2006-10-02 12:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need to make sure that you be yourself. Good friends are hard to find. I would rather have 3 really close friends, whom I can count on, than 200 friends who don't give a sh*t about me. All I have done to achieve this is hang out with people who are as genuine as I. Good luck.
2006-10-02 12:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Smirx 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
You don't really "make" close friendships, they sorta happen over time with mutuality...ya know? In order to have friends, you must be one, first. Be yourself and don't try to fake anything, ever.
2006-10-02 12:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋