PLEASE HELP, I am 13, for about 2 months i have thought i was bi, I dont want to be bi, i have a boyfriend, and I LOVE boys, but latley i have been thinking about girls having sex, and me having sex woth girls, I HATE IT, everytime i have these thouhgts i telll myseft so stop, and when i am along i just cry, i dont wasnt to be bi, but i am so scared i am, I CRY ALL THE TIME. I told my mom, and in a month i a going to a theripst, i hope i can get help there. I pray to God everyday to help me not have these thougts, but its not helping me. If someine could please help me, If you could PRAY for me, i would appericate it, I have heard that alot of teenagers have these problems, If you had these problems wien you were my age then could you please leave your email address!!! PLEAESE I NEED HELP I HATE THESE THOUNGTS, I HAVE EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT KILLING MYSELF!!! i HATE THIS!!! I NEED HELP!!!!!
2006-10-02 12:43:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Relax sweetie! Take a deep breath...just because you've had thoughts doesn't mean you're anything. It's perfectly healthy and natural to have those thoughts, even at that age. Even guys go through it so don't worry. As you get older you'll learn how to better deal with it. Yes, it comes as a shock to be attracted to women but then as you get older you begin to understand that the attraction isn't anything more than sheer curiousity. If you act on it, then yes, you could consider yourself bi. A lot of people go through an "experimental" phase just to try things out which is also perfectly normal so don't worry about it. There's nothing wrong with you at all. EVERYONE goes through it whether they want to admit it or not. Just like EVERYONE masturbates whether they admit it or not.
2006-10-02 12:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy! It's okay to have those thoughts, it's completely natural. Don't hate yourself for doing something that EVERY person has does or has done at some time...if they tell you they don't, they're lying! We're human, that's part of who we are...especially at your age...you're curious, and thinking about sex alot I'm sure, not just with girls. I will not pray for you because there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, but I will hope that you will realize that it's okay, and don't beat yourself up about it. It's probably just a phase that will pass, and if not, it's not the end of the world. Being 13 is akward and not fun at times (I remember!), but it will get better, I promise!
2006-10-02 19:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amber honey, stop talking about killing yourself. There is always an answer, but that's not one of them. There are many reasons for this. It's hard for people to answer with the "right" answer as everyone is different, but these thoughts can range from what you watch on T.V. to what you read and even your friends can have an influence on your thoughts. Don't give up on the Lord, keep praying, he won't let you down. I will pray for you and I'm sure there are plenty of people in here that will be just as concerned for you, so hang in there kiddo :)
2006-10-02 19:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was around your age, and I did see a therapist. To make a long story short, my having these thoughts was completely normal because at that age, you are really just kind of exploring.. Plus, you can't really trust your body yet. By that I mean you may find yourself getting exited but it's just thinking. I will pray for you, but I really think you are being too hard on yourself just for thinking. I don't think you are ready to make this kind of decision until you've had a little more experience. Good luck.
2006-10-02 19:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YO SLOW DOWN! killing yourself is not the best way to handle this. You're still young and exploring new things. Personally i think you're to young to be thinking about sex, but it's not my place to say. as for your situation, this is perfectly normal. nothing is wrong with you. It's not a disease. Your just more open to different things. you'll probably grow out of it just give it time. the more you treat this as a bad thing the more it's gonna seem like it. relax the thoughts you have are again natural for you to have everyone has them. some people just don't admit it as openly as you. you probably saw something in a movie and it stuck with you and now your mind is thinking about that. hopefully this finds you still alive......javilovescorvettes@yahoo.com should you want to ask me something personal
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2006-10-02 19:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by apocalyptic ghost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be who you want to be. The reality is that a majority if not ALL the people in the world have "thought" about homosexuality at one time or another, especially at a young age like yours when trying to discover your sexual identity. And, likewise, a very large percentage of people have had same-sex experiences, even if they know consider themselves hetero. The NORM is that there is NO SUCH THING as the NORM. Do what makes you happy. Figure out what you want to be and who you want to be with, and recognize that it isn't BAD. The worst thing is to NOT be true to yourself. Oh, and if considering killing yourself, seek professional help.
2006-10-02 19:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by non_apologetic_american 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please remember that God loves you NO MATTER WHAT. I admire you for asking for prayer, THAT is ALWAYS the answer. I may not be able to help you directly but my Church has a 24 hour prayer line, the woman who works it is anointed of God and can give you some relief. It's the Speak the Word Ministries Prayer Line, the number is 340-778-7729 you can also request prayer online at www.speakthewordministries.org
God Bless you and keep you always.
2006-10-02 19:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by MaryKayDIQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is relax! It is not abnormal to have these thoughts...don't let anyone tell you that it is. We are all biological creatures with thoughts of sex...regardless of the gender. Just because you have the thoughts does NOT make you Bisexual, homosexual, or any other stereotype! Stop thinking about killing yourself. Things can never get any better if you aren't here to enjoy it!
2006-10-02 20:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Loretta R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it isn't something worth killing ur self over. Talk to the therapist and see what they say. I think that ur so obsessed with the thought that u might be bi that u keep thinking about it. (Make any sense?) I'll pray for u. E-mail me if u need to.
2006-10-02 19:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by dragonkisses 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amber- there is nothing wrong with you. Unfortunately, many religions teach children what they think is right and wrong(I'm guessing this is a major influence for you based on your comments.) The only wrong thing would be for you to live a lie. Be true to yourself and don't let societal biases influence who you are. Love whoever you want but first love yourself.
2006-10-02 19:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Dani B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋