My man sneeks around and watches porn all the time, at first it didnt bother me cause it was something we did together. He started to get worse w/ the porn thing. Watching it when i went to sleep, before he goes to work and some of this is sick "BLEEP". I told him it bothered me, girls it makes me feel violated. I give him all he wants and then some.. Y does he keep doing this to me.. i dont even want to be intimate w/ him.. I even put my engagement ring on the line and he still did this behind my back.. Grrrr... how would you handle this? I've tried everything..
2006-10-02 12:35:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is plain and simply a addiction , he is addicted to the porn my ex husband was too once he threw it all away and said he was done when i demanded it . nex tthing i knew i was getting out of the car at my daughters school and when i slide my feet out the rug moved and out flew a nasty magazine. he only hide it from me then the video store was calling about our over due movies then he started buying them . along comes pay per view then the cable bill was 300.00 and not that he would not pay it just the fact that he was lying and sneaking this is a addiction that only he can deal with. You need to get out till he figures out what he wants and in the mean time maybe u will meet a man who can appreciate u for u. and not have the other women in ur bedroom ie by video but it still feels like he is making love to them not u .
2006-10-02 12:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is addicted and he will not be able to stop without help. I would not let the relationship continue. That's how all this sick stuff starts with child pornography and all the other stuff that this world is full of. With the Internet you don't have to leave the room to see it all. Not like when you had to walk into a theater or a dirty book store and take a chance on your neighbor seeing you. that's the problem with the world today and why little girls are abused and even killed. I'm not saying your man is like that but, it is addicting and hard to stop. so, give the ultimatum and get away from him. I'd get rid of my service if I found my husband doing that. Sorry, I couldn't put up with it.
2006-10-02 12:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn can be an addiction as powerful as drugs alcohol and smoking. It is obvious that he has no control. That would indicate he has an obsessive/compulsive problem. If he would ever cheat once... it too may become an addiction... yes there are sex addicts... and therefore Sex Addicts Anonymous. There are also groups that address the addiction to porn as well.
It's better that you now now as opposed to later. He will struggle with this at best. He may never get over it...
Is this what you want? Sounds like the engagement ring ultimatum didn't work...that should tell you... it's over. he's made his choice.
2006-10-02 12:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to first admit he's got a problem with not being able to stop watching porn. Unless he does that, there really isn't that much you can do. YOu could try and ask him what it is about it that he enjoys so much, then you can see a therapist on your own about this problem. They'll tell you he'll have to come in also and talk to someone but if he's not ready then you won't get much help. Sorry to hear this is happening to you.. but good luck.
2006-10-02 12:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, it sounds like you have two choices. You can either learn to ignore it and just not let it bother you, or, you have to get rid of him. You have to decide if that is something you can live with. He obviously doesn't love you enough to stop it, or it's an addiction, in which case you definitely either need to suggest counseling or break it off. Keep in mind that if you marry you will probably have kids one day and you definitely don't want to have to deal with a pedophile. Good luck in your decision. Pray about it, God can help.
2006-10-02 12:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try taking away the porn. If this fails leave him for a little bit and see what he does. If he comes for you, he still cares and loves you. If he does not do anything when you leave, you should consider breaking up.
2006-10-02 12:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you should sit him down and talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you really dislike what he is doing. ask him why he still watches porn after you asked him not to. and tell him you dont like him sneeking behind your back
2006-10-02 12:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an addiction, in which case he needs some professional help. You can't stop him on your own, and if he doesn't respect your feelings about this, then he doesn't deserve your love. Have one more frank talk with him about it. If he refuses to compromise, then you may have to move on.
2006-10-02 12:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Amelie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might in no way have a three sum. with yet another female or a yet another boy, in no way. i might kiss a woman if i replace into dared to yet i would not do plenty greater then pecks. it may desire to be somebody i know or somebody he's unquestionably-known with. doesnt count to me. he cant make me do any factor i dont desire to do and that i dont could desire to agonize approximately him forcing me simply by fact he in no way might
2016-12-12 19:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by shery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I'd kick his dirty porn watchin behind to the curb!!! You should threaten to brake up with him if he keeps watching it and if he doesn't stop tell him IT'S OVER!!!!!
2006-10-02 12:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋