2006-10-02 12:24:06 · 23 answers · asked by GalaxyGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
further info as requested! kissing on the lips, insisting on saying goodnight to her when she says she doesn't want him too.
2006-10-02 12:33:01 · update #1
i would be a bit worried here. if she doesnt want him to kiss her, then he shouldnt. he shouldnt be insisting on kissing her! this is obviously making her uncomfortable. ask him not to do it and keep an eye on him. i wouldnt leave her alone with him either. im really not sure about this guy.
2006-10-02 14:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent, especially a step-parent, must respect a child's right to privacy. This includes knocking on the door and being asked to come in (or stay out.)
If a child does not wish to be kissed, one should never force oneself on her/him. It's a question of respect for the child.
If the goodnight kiss becomes an intrusion or a problem, or a forced matter, it must be agreed between the parents and the child that it stops.
Paedophilia is a whole other question, and will reveal itself sooner or later, in which case great care must be taken in how it is dealt with.
A call to the social services, an interview with the father, or quite simply a warning to him to control himself may be sufficient.
2006-10-03 04:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong. You have to tell him to stop going into her room and make it clear that the kissing is inappropriate. How do you know he is not making her kiss him when you are not in the house? Perhaps that is why she is not keen to have him kiss her goodnight either. I am not saying that this man is a paedophile, but you have to try and put a stop to this NOW for your daughters sake. If she is not happy about him doing this then he shouldnt be doing it at all and you shouldnt be allowing it.
2006-10-03 04:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without a doubt. Yes he is!!! I have a 12 (nearly 13 stepdaughter and stepson, twins) and because I have brought them up since they were 5 years old I look on them as my own kids. If they were my own natural flesh and blood I would not give them a kiss on the lips, neither would any other father which is why I state the guy you ask about is definitly a pedo and the mother wants to get the kid away from him ASAP, before he does her any harm!!!!
2006-10-02 19:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this should be discussed with another adult, be a mum or teacher of close family member. It all depends on the severity of the kiss. A peck is just fine, any further than the person who you have confided in will know what to do.
2006-10-02 19:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be perfectly innocent, the stepfather could just be trying really hard to be a good dad, if he does not have kids of his own then maybe he just doesn't know how to behave around kids. Having said that, if the child has said that she is uncomfortable with this then her views MUST be respected. I have to admit it sounds a bit dodgy to me.
2006-10-03 04:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely it depends on where the kiss is placed.
**Why does everyone immediately jump to the assumption that this has to indicate a paedophile ?!
It's got to the stage that even parents are reticent about kissing and cuddling their kids !
2006-10-02 19:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Froggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh... what kind of Kiss is it?
On the cheek or forehead... is perfectly alright... even if it's unwanted by her. He might be trying to show his affection as the father image. She may e having problems accepting him as a dad and therefore be resistent to his harmless kiss.
If the kiss is anything else...Call the police!
2006-10-02 19:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i first saw your post,it immediately put me in mind of the N.S.P.C.C advert on T.V.(UK TV-the one where the guy goes into the little girls bedroom)Have a good talk to her,but no pressure-find out why she is uncomfortable about this,and for how long-then act accordingly with what she says.
2006-10-03 05:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt always mean hes a pedophile, but Id keep an eye on the situation. He may just want to feel more like her real dad and trying to get that closeness a real dad would have.
I guess if she doesnt want him to tho, then you should make him stop.
2006-10-02 19:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋