How can i be more stronger?

Question

I'm suffering from kindness & it's something that I really dislike in my self.

I'm gay man, 20 yrs old (Capricorn). i find my self too kind and too warm hearted with people even strangers, I really really hate this thing because it makes my self sometimes look stupid and make me shy sometimes. However, there is a lion inside me.

I tried many times to be more stronger and to change in this way, I know tenderness or kindness are good things but not with everyone and not all the time.

people always noticed those two things in me, I know it takes time to change but nothing is impossible..

I would like to be more thinking with my brain more than my heart..!
Please your advice your help..

Answer 1

Rule of thumb. There's nothing wrong with initiating kindness and warmth. After that, it's up to the other person to return it or to reject it. If you do that you'll be thinking with your head AND your heart. When you think only with one, excluding the other, you set yourself up for a sad, lonely, one-dimensional life. Being open means being vulnerable. And while that might hurt sometimes, it's still the better route. Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 2

hey wait. I am a capricorn too. but i dont think of changing meself jus be what you are. yes its good to be kind. well i am shy as well but wait. capricorns are really creative. fist you need to find a cancer whos our luck star. yea i ment a girl cancer. no no not a gf jus a girl anyone as they are the one who can guide capricorns. well i already have my mom so its ok for me. I know capricorns are childish and most of them look younger than their age. but thats no region to change yourself. remember Quality is better than quantity. its better to know some good people rather than knowing rowdys. be happy capricorns are the luckiest signs. if you wanna be bad then i can stop you go ahead and spoil ur life in darkness by following bad companies. dont give up on who u are. there are many people who actually like capricorns. jus you need to try getting along with them and try to be with them. be aware of bad companies. be good and try to listen to ur heart and ur brain. if you wanna know ur love matches the they are:Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus