All of my friends start talking about hot guys durring lunch or class sometime and I really can't relate to what they are saying. I'm not interested in any boys nor have a dream one. Before you say, no I'm not gay. My friends checked and Its not like I like girls instead. Is it possible for someone to just not be attracted to either sex? Or am I just late. I want to relate I really do but I seriously can not get interested in boys like my friends.
2006-10-02 12:14:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
YOURE GOOD!!! take it easy.. TRUST me you will be better off to wait that one out.
Look at it like this:
By the time you are in 10th grade you will NOT have broken up with all the hot guys that all your friends have talked about!
Again, TRUST ME!!! Taking this one slow is going to make you so much happier in the end. Ask your self one thing... is all this guy/ girl /dating/ crush/ love crap making your friends really that happy? (maybe some of them) but for the most part?? think about it how many of them have cried already this year over that "someone special"? it is SOOO overrated and besides... who wants a BOY... wait for your MAN! Trust me he is out there... you'll do well to wait for him, then you will be able to give him your whole heart instead of a broken one.
But to answer your original question ....It's possible to NOT be attracted to the IDEA of a relationship. This does not make you wierd, or late or gay.
Just wait it out.
Live, play sports, laugh, study hard, be a friend and when you aren't expectiong it, LOVE will surprise you.
2006-10-02 12:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by DrVodka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem normal.
According to an article published in Scientific American many years ago, only about 10 percent of girls reach menarche by age 15. You wrote that you are in grade 9, so it is likely that you have a few years yet to physically mature.
In any case, interest in boys is a social interaction as well as a hormonal response. Some people are less socially active than others, even as adults.
If you are doing ok in school, getting enough sleep and exercise, and eating nutritionally well, then chances are your social life will be ok too.
Try to say hello to everyone, girl or boy, and be friendly and polite. Make a practice when you pass people in a hall, or as they enter a room, to always say something like "hello", "how are you?", "have a good day."
If you are seen talking to someone, that does NOT mean you are special friends, it just means you are a nice person. You should talk to everyone that you can, except criminals. Be careful not to gossip. If you feel you don't have anything to say, then try asking questions like "How old are you?" "Do you have brothers and sisters?" "Where were you born?"
Tell people your name, in case they don't know you. Even if you told the person your name on a previous occasion, you can tell them again.
This advice applies to your situation in school. Do NOT give out personal information on the internet.
2006-10-02 19:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by old c programmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry it will come. It will be gradual. You'll start liking boys or girls a little more everyday. Now some people are born asexual. They are not attracted to anybody. If you don't have an interest in either sex by the end of high school I would think you're asexual.
2006-10-02 19:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Angry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for someone to be 'neutra'l, they're called asexuals. But i doubt thats your problem, you're still very young, and not being into boys at your age doesn't mean anything. Maybe its just that you haven't meant the right boy yet, and when you do, things will pick up. But until then, dont be ashamed to take things at your own pace, everyone is unique and has a different level sex drive. Not being ridiculously horny and boy crazy is a wonderful thing, so embrace it!
2006-10-02 19:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think thats abnormal, I actually think that its a good idea to wait to get involved with guys and instead focus on school. It will happen someday and you'll be attracted to guys and you'll go out and have fun. It just sounds like right now isn't that time for you and thats okay!
2006-10-02 20:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Aly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, that's perfectly normal ... you aren't missing much anyway, trust me. Just worry about what makes you happy. Eventually you will start to be attracted to someone, you probably just haven't met someone yet that makes your stomach turn. I wasn't much interested in having a boyfriend either when I was your age.
2006-10-02 19:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and have fun. Don't worry whatever happens will happen when it is suppose to happen. Just do the best you can in all that you do and enjoy doing it. To often high schoolers have too much pressure to be like your friends. This is really a time to discover who you are, just be that and have fun doing it.
2006-10-02 19:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Peaches 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be too concerned. Put YOUR focus on getting a great education and a great job. They last for ever. Relationships come and go... Move at your own pace. You are perfectly normal.
2006-10-02 19:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 36 and I've never had a relationship. You'll probably turn out okay, as long as you aren't uncomfortable around everyone.
2006-10-02 19:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its alright gurly, you might just be a late bloomer and not in2 it, everyone moves at there own pace in life and its a good idea, just takecare of yourself and know what your doing and things will fall in2 place, its ok to not yearn for a guy or relationship at some point.
2006-10-02 19:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋