Met my ex 5 years ago, & married after the third year. We have no kids, & went through a painful divorce that she asked for this July. Recently my ex contacted me again, showing how much she misses me & that she wants back. She talked about wanting to have kids this time, and that she was serious.
We had a few succesful meetings, & apparently things seem to be going well. One day we had an intimate talk, & asked her to tell me anything that she might think i need to know such as if she met someone else since the divorce or such. She talked, but she mentioned nothing about a guy she recently met & proposed to her, & failed only because her parents refused.
My concern is, why would she hide this from me? Why did she lie to me when I specifically asked her? How is it possible for her to meet or love someone in such a short time (2 months) & agree to marry him?
I dont think she deserves my trust anymore, since she lied, & how it was easy for her loving someone else so quick
2006-10-02 12:11:12 · 13 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it wrong for me to need to know about such a thing? Dont I have the right since I loved her for 5 years? Please let me know everyone
2006-10-02 12:13:51 · update #1
In my 30yrs. of marriage we were seperated 4 times. I wish we had broken it off the first time. It would have saved a lot of pain. Sounds to me like she likes playing games and is dishonest. Run like hell.
2006-10-02 12:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn your head and walk away from her and never look back. There are too many women out there worthy of such a kind person. Your ex is not one of them. I know you probably are in love with her, but you will find someone else.
2006-10-02 12:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very wary about getting back with your ex…
I’d be asking myself if she is ‘pregnant’ and just looking to me to father the child.
She was not being truthful to you about the other guy, which would suggest that you would be basing the rekindled relationship on a lie.
Sounds to me that she just wants to use you !!!
The following is a poem I wrote some time ago…
Perhaps it will help you decide what to do.
You should never have betrayed my trust!
I believed you were a true friend of mine…
I thought that in you, I could trust.
What happened to the promise you made,
of how you would remain forever true?
You promised me ‘your honesty’…
Told me you would never lie…
Now I find out that you did tell a lie,
and I no longer know what to believe.
How can I trust you from now?
How can I believe whatever you say?
How can I tell you the feelings I have,
and trust you to not tell the world?
You should never have betrayed my trust…
Never even thought of telling me lies.
You have proven to me that believing in you
is something I should never do!
What is there left for us now?
Where do we go to from here?
I’d like to believe you are sorry,
but I can’t trust you to not ‘lie’ again.
I’ll continue to accept you as a friend…
Perhaps, in time, I will trust you again.
I forgive you the lie that you told,
but my confidence in you has gone.
If you value the friendship we share…
You will never ‘lie to me’ again.
I am sorry for what we have lost,
but you should never have betrayed my trust !!!
2006-10-02 12:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is going to be a problem. My suggestion for you is that you keep on walking and don't look back.
The person you marry should be honest and straightforward in ALL things. You know what they say: 'Past performance is an indicator of future performances." There is trouble ahead if you attach yourself to this untrustworthy woman. You deserve someone better--and she is out there somewhere--waiting for you! Good luck.
2006-10-02 12:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nisey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love can always hit fast or slow so don't discredit that so much. It depends on the circumstances.
As far as your ex is concerned, I would say that you guys should get counseling first to see if it is worth saving. Don't just jump in blind again. There was more than her warped mind that made you guys break up. Find out what that was and see if you can fix it before making that commitment again. Besides, if she is lying in therapy, then she's just plain stupid.
Good luck!
2006-10-02 12:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 09:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, run crazy man who hasn't been tortured enough by a divorce attorney to know better!
Run, as fast as you can! Run and hide, keep the penis in the pants and run like Leatherface were after you!
Run away, up one hill, down another, hide the seminal fluids, she will harvest them and her lawyer will laugh with glee!
Run for your life, fool man, for God's sake save yourself while you still can. Beware the evil X with the lawyer!!!!!
2006-10-02 12:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart but, think of this there is a reason she is your ex and be cautious... because, people who find there ex and wants to get back must have gotten burned by someone else...good luck!
2006-10-02 12:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by shelly v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that you should not get back together... and like you said how can you trust her again ... she seems pretty messed up and doesnt know what she wants..things might be peaches and cream right now but whats to say she wont do this again.
2006-10-02 12:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by maureen a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go! You divorced. She is now in the past. Move on.
2006-10-02 12:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋