I had a boyfriend when I met my husband. Needless to say I left him for my now husband, only problem is that this EX doesn't understand that he's just that and EX. He still calls, my mom's phone looking for me. And sends love letters to my house. If my husband find out about him...I dont want to know what will happen to the poor guy! How do I get him to just leave me alone!!??
2006-10-02 12:10:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ever hear of 9-1-1.... call them show your proof and get a restraining order.. it isn't that hard...
2006-10-02 12:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trina, first of all, you cheated on him with your now husband. In your ex's mind, you all haven't closed the door. He obviously still loves you. This is not a good picture and could get ugly. What's going to end up happening is, your husband WILL find out. How will you explain that...??? What I would do, (as much as it will hurt) you need to tell your husband that your ex is bothering you. You're married to him now and if you're not sneaking around with your ex and you REALLY want it over, then you're either going to have to tell your hubby or face the consequences when he finds out. It's ugly both ways but you should protect your marriage even though you cheated before you were married. He will NOT go away unless he's confronted and your mom should not be in the middle of this mess. It's up to YOU to be a big girl and handle this situation before you end up losing your husband. The lesson here is, this is what cheating gets you. If your eyes haven't been opened, you're in for a long life. Reality is hard to face but it's your fault. If you can face that as a fact, then you'll know what you have to do. Your choice sweetie. It's not easy, but the right thing to do in my opinion...Good luck... : )
2006-10-02 19:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to tell your husband about the problem you are having. If it was to get out he will be upset that you never came to him about the issue. If your ex continues you may want to get a restraining order against him for harassment. He could get violent because his behavior is not normal at all.
2006-10-02 19:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give this guy notice that you want him to leave you alone and document it. If he does not and the contact persists, then get a restraining order.
I agree with everyone else. Keeping this from your hsband is a phenomially BAD idea. If he finds out on his own, he will think you had something to hide. You don't. You didn't cheat on your husband and your ex is a wacko. If anything he will support you and what you decide to do from here on out.
Hidong leads to chaos. Trust me on this one.
2006-10-02 19:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it seems you cheated on your then boyfriend with who is now your husband? Why would anyone want to help a cheater?
If you didnt cheat then just geta restraining order. Sounds exagerating but its the only that will work. I had to get one for an ugly chick that would not quit pissing me off
2006-10-02 19:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you tell your husband you know if it goes on and you dont get him off your back, and your husband finds out he might get the wrong idea and wonder why you didnt tell him before. and who knows maybe he knows what will get your ex to leave you alone. your ex is probly really heart broken and he will need time to get over it. if its been a while then he gots problems.
2006-10-02 19:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by b26_angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order. i do think you should tell your husband, if you aint doing nothing wrong then why are you hiding it? if your husband knew maybe he wouldve done something about it already and the ex probably wouldve been out of the picture by now.
2006-10-02 19:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being clear with him that you have moved on and no longer have unfinished business. Get a restraining order. that will make your point for you. tell your husband, so he won't 'find out' and blame you for 'stringing him along'. Maybe your husband will even stand up for you....
2006-10-02 21:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Tell your husband. Keeping secrets like this will only come back to bite you later.
2) Get a restraining order.
2006-10-02 19:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I think Id have to tell him that you are going to call the police and complain about harrassment. Maybe thatll get him to stop. I realize you may not want to do that, but it may be the only thing that works.
2006-10-02 19:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband honesty is the best way to go ........... get a civil protection order on the ex.
2006-10-03 00:45:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋