my bf and i took a break for 2 weeks. because we fought too much over meaningless crap.
we got back together on thursday and we havent fought at all. we have been together for almost 3 years now.
he decided not to see me every day when in our relationship before he was fine with it? he can see his guy friend every single day but why not me?? if he loves me shouldnt he want to see me every day??
2006-10-02 12:05:43 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i wouldnt be complaining if he did see me all the time
2006-10-02 12:10:54 · update #1
i hang out with him and his friends. and i dont complain about it
2006-10-02 12:11:25 · update #2
girls really have to stop whining about this stuff. sometimes, guys just don't want to have to deal with all the bitching and whining and insecurity. maybe he's gay.
2006-10-02 12:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like the "2 week break" was a mutual agreement. Why don't you ask yourself the reason you saw it fit to take a break? It seems as though some time apart did you good; maybe he's attempting to keep the relationship at a good level by keeping a steady "break" type concept going. If you thought it was a good idea at first, what has changed? 3 years is a long time to be with someone and keep things fun and lighthearted. Spending some time with guy friends isn't always bad, especially if you know them and there's no problem with you hanging with the boys sometimes too. Keep your mind open to the fact that he's trying to make this relationship work, and you found a healthy solution-sometimes taking time to breathe and re-discover yourself can be healthy in relationships; it may even make you appreciate the time you have together more.
On the other hand, I've always feared the "time apart" concept because if you're going to be with that person, I feel as though you should be able to work through anything TOGETHER. Make sure you're not losing touch with your partner because of this time off; he might just be trying to ease out of the relationship. 3 years has a lot of feelings and emotion wrapped up into it and it might just be too much for him to handle.
Either way, consider both sides of the story. He deserves time to himself; don't get selfish with him. Allow the man a chance to breathe if he's asking for it!
2006-10-02 12:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by TermiteChokinOnASplinter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is wanting to see other friends and not wanting to tell you. Or maybe he thinks you are to close and he wants more freedom. Either way I say it is wrong to put you through this.
My advice is to start putting your own distance in the relationship by not being as needy of him or showing him you need him. You may think he will take it the wrong way but it is what he really wants. Have you watched the movie John Tucker must die? You can get a good sense of what men are after, a challenge. I feel strongly that men want woman to be more challenging in real life.
2006-10-02 12:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say I prefer to have my own space too .. There's nothing like a girls nite out without the boys at the weekend and a nite in midweek with a soppy movie and some goodies ...
Maybe have a sit down and a serious chat about what you both want and try and come to an agreeable decision :-) Good Luck ....
2006-10-02 12:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid that if you see each other every day you will get tired of each other and start to fight. Kind of like brothers and sisters that are still at home. When they no longer live together they get along better. Just a guess though. Seen it with my kids this way in them dealing with thier gfs
2006-10-02 12:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times are gonna post this question? Give the guy some space..geez
2006-10-02 13:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys need space sometimes to appreciate their gf. better his guy friend than a girl. its about quality time spent as opposed to quantity.
2006-10-02 12:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space
2006-10-02 12:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by cremcharl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His guy friends are his real friends, you are a filler.
Move on.
2006-10-02 12:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by jalapeno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he needs his own space
2006-10-02 12:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋