should my boyfriend remember how long we have been together??

Question

Hi everyone! my boyfriend and I have dated on oct. 9th it will be six months, every month I say do you know how long we have been dating, when it reaches the 9th, he never remembers what day or what month. He says you know I have a bad memory. My birthday is on feb. 13th, and he always thinks dec. but he finally remembered it. (sometimes) a lot of times he just remembers it is in feb. now that we will have been dating 6 month do you think it should be recognized, do you think he should do anything special for me. I would for him. i just don't think he is going to remember. it makes me feel like he doesn't care. I know girls care more htan guys, but am I overreacting. If he doesn't remember on mon. the 9th, shouuld I leave? what do i do? it's frustrating.,

Answer 1

I think you are making too big a deal of it. Guys don't remember their own wedding anniversaries, so you can't expect them to remember the day that they started dating a girlfriend. :)

Don't worry about it and don't break up with him because of it.

Answer 2

What's the point? Is this your 1st relationship that has lasted this long? If so, why do you make such an issue over it? You are not married or even engaged to be married. It would be a different story if you too were dating [boyfriend/girlfriend] over 2 years, then there should be no excuse for either of you! Stop acting like your 6-month relationship is bigger than a mountain. Stop your worrying and nagging. Wait until you are married - then ask your husband how many months it has been. Why keep track, I've never know any one whose relationship has been laid in gold!

Answer 3

Men think so differently then women it is amazing. It is that way from birth. I have a hard time remembering how long I have been married (9 years tomorrow). But every day I remember how much more I am in love with her today and how it does not even hint to how much I loved her then. But back then I thought it was not possible to love women more then I loved her. I am not really concerned about yesterday though. I am looking forward to the next 99 years together. Forgive me if I am blinded by the love I have today that I forget that 9 years ago how we met. Love for today and tomorrow.

Answer 4

Sometimes it is like you said. It is more important for girls than it is for guys. Instead of testing his memory every time approach it like this.... During a conversation say "hey Monday the 9th is our six month anniversary do you want to do anything special?" "we could go out to eat, watch a movie, or....." Then it reminds him and lets him know you think it is a special day and would like to do something.

Answer 5

Well dear, I'm a man and I care about remembering dates and things. The little details go a long way and show a lot about the quality of anything that might go the distance. It might not be important to him, but perhaps in the future it will be. I don't think you should end your relationship for this reason. He hopefully has shown his appreciation for you in other ways. If not, then well...you know what to do.

Answer 6

I would not dwell on it. I'm not sure how old you are...but, I know when I was young it mattered to me.....(not him) but as time goes on it matters less. NOW your birthday matters and you could help him if it all really matters just buy him a cool calender and put in all your important dates and also find out like when is his mom & dad's birthday, aniversary's and any other important dates. If you really like this guy and he likes you equally and you'd spend the time together any way ..... make a plan, tell him what you want to do.... how can he resist! Best of luck!

Answer 7

I am a man. I have a bad memory but I remember the day that I first met my wife (may 25), the day that I proposed to her (July 6th) and the day that we got married (Nov 9th). I will always remember those dates.

If he cares about you he will remember. If he really has a bad memory he will find a way to make himself remember (by writing it, putting the date on his cell phone, in his calendar, etc)

Ask him dates relevant to other things he cares about. If he remembers those but not dates relevant to your relationship, then he doesn't care enough.

Answer 8

Give the poor guy a break! Guys just aren't as date/anniversary oriented as girls are. They live more in the moment. You have to pass a lot of hints and reminders. Don't count on him remembering. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you! When you get married someday, you'll have to continue reminding your husband about your birthday and anniversary for the rest of your life!

Answer 9

well you shouldnt leave if he doesnt remember, but def make it a point that it bothers you that he cant remember any of the importnant dates you two share. i kno that my boyfriend has remembered every date since day 1. and weve been 2gether since jan. '06. hes been in basic training since aug 15th and has remembered our anniversary for the past 2 months. he calls me and writes me about it every month on the 1st. by exs used to be how youre boyfriend is and i used to get really upset with them. so i see where youre comin from. but its not that he doesnt care, guys just have something about them that makes it so they cant remember anything. but dont get to worked up about it, hell remember some day.....when it REALLY matters

Answer 10

I think it's important that he remembers your birthday, but as for anniversary, my fiance and I choose to celebrate once a year and on a set date and he usually doesnt remember without me reminding him, but it doesnt bother me much as long as we are still together that's all that matters!

Dont end up having a massive fight about it, because you may be regretting it later if he breaks it off and you realise how stupid you were being!