I know this sounds weird and personal but i'm an only child, so i have no one of the brotherly or sisterly decent to speak with. But I honestly feel like I dont please my husband sexually. I was a Virgin, until I was with him so i dont know much of experience. However he claimes to only have been with 4 girls before me. I have a problem of constantly comparing myself to them sexually but I dont have orgasams with him, and I dont know what's wrong with me! What should i do!??
2006-10-02 11:47:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're putting too much pressure on yourself. Just act natural. Communicate with him. Ask him what would he like you to do. A new position? Change something slightly? Wear an outfit? Find something that you are interested and offer it to him. Say, "I want to try something new." or "How does it feel when I do this." The #1 you need to do is communicate your feelings and what you want to him. He will want to make sure you receive pleasure and that will turn him on as well.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 12:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, first of all he married u not them right. that sould say something. but if u feel your pleasing him talk to him ask him what he likes dont be ashamed men like u to ask them. still not sure get books or movies i no this may seem weired but maybe watch some porn see what they do and then try it on him as for the orgasam i was married and two kids before i had my first one its different then just getting o**. u will no when u have relex just let it happen dont fight it. it will blow your socks off when it happens. good luck hun. ive been with my man for 18 yrs we are going strong. try new stuff spice it up.
2006-10-02 18:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you; it took me 10 years and about as many partners before I had my first orgasm. Being that you're married, you can't exactly go out and experiment, but if I were you I would ask your doctor for advice, as well as do some research online or in books about how to improve your sexual life. Askmen.com has some tips on how to please your guy. You shouldn't be comparing yourself to your husband's previous partners, this is a self-esteem issue, and you really have to get over it; it's just not healthy.
2006-10-02 18:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you. most women it is difficult for them to have orgnasms and it comes from clitoral stimulation instead of penetration. Do some reading, get some books on the subject seriously. Talk to him about it but try not to come off self conscious. Tell him you want to please him sexually and ask him how you can best do that. And find out what does it for you too and tell him.
2006-10-02 18:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key thing in any relationship. Tell him how you feel and ask him for input. I think watching some videos is a good thing and watching it with your hubby will give you some insight as to what turns him on--and what turns YOU on.. etc., But, talk it out, and then try it out. You will feel good and feel good about yourself soon.
2006-10-02 19:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't weird but you definitely need to get the situation resolved. It sounds like the problem is your state of mind more than anything. This is a situation that should be brought up to him, not durning sex, but during a quiet moment. Ask him what MORE you could do to please him, not IF you please him, ask him to describe what he would like. Then as you two begin foreplay, ask him what he likes, try different things. Tell him what he does that you like. Communication is the key to great sex.
2006-10-02 19:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by dumb guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have orgasms at all? Even if you're not climaxing at the same time, it's normal.
Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone is different. What makes one woman or man happy, may not please another.
So don't do that to yourself. If he's with you, he loves you. Talk to him and you both need to work it out together
2006-10-02 18:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your hubbie to take more time with foreplay. Try teasing your clitoris. and slaming your pelvic area into his to signal that you want the dick a little harder or faster.
2006-10-02 18:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you --- how old are you?
buy a book or see a video hope that works for you
2006-10-02 18:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOREPLAY AND IF EVERYTHING FAILS - PRETEND. WHO CARES IF HE WAS WITH ONE MILLION GIRLS, HE IS WITH YOU NOW. I DOUBT THAT HE HAD ANYONE ELSE BEFORE YOU. TRY TO GET SEXUALLY AROUSED PRIOR TO THE ACT.
2006-10-02 18:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋