i thought ive been in love a few times.im with my boyfriend and i think i am or am i ?
2006-10-02 11:40:24 · 9 answers · asked by sadgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
True love is when you want your boyfriend to have what HE wants MORE than you want him to have what YOU want him to have. The myth that we usually call being "in love" is just that, it's not at all what we think it is. That fake love, while feeling VERY intense and very real is just our human animal instincts taking over and making us feel strongly attracted to a member of the opposite sex who we believe would make a good physical partner for us. It's nature's way of ensuring the survival of our species. Here's an easy way to tell the difference between the two. If you are feeling "crazy" about him, if you can't sleep/work/eat or hang out with your friends without constantly thinking about him, if you're feeling all dreamy and very "Romeo and Juliet" about him, if you're wondering where he is and who he's with when he's not with you, if you want him all to yourself, THAT is your DNA talking and that feeling will vanish after you have been with him for a little while. That feeling is the myth. If on the otherhand, you really want him to have whatever it is he wants. If you just want him to be happy. It doesn't mean you have to give him everything he wants, it just means you want him to have it if he wants it (for example, if you don't want to have sex, but he does, if you love him you'd want him to be able to have sex with someone, just not you). That may, on the surface, sound silly, but if you think about it, it's true. Fake love is selfish and all about what you are getting out of the relationship. Real love is about giving and helping someone get what they want...as long as their having it doesn't cause you to lose who you really are, or to do something that goes against who you really are. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more that a emotional feeling it is built over time you must be in a relationship for a while before you know its love. You will find out how much you love someone when there is hardship. If you really love that person you will be willing to do what it takes to make it work when you really get to know all of the not so good things about thier character are you will to perservere through the pain and love unconditionally that is the question.
2006-10-02 18:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by DReidSR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you were, then you would not have to ask.
If you have any question in the back of your mind, then you have not found the one.
That is the problem. Too many people think they are in love or settle for the one they have or the next one that comes along. Wait for the right one, you will definately know it.
2006-10-02 18:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person who can say if they are in love or not... i can say I'm in love with my BF because i will do anything for him. I'm ready to help him 24/7/365 :))) He knows that I'm always by his side and i know the same for him...
2006-10-02 18:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by european_baby_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will love him romantically, you will see him as your best friend and you will want to share your life with him living in a way that is based on giving, on concern and care for him, rather than on getting your way and pleasing yourself.
2006-10-02 18:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just know....it takes a little while to figure out if that person would be someone you could be with for the rest of your life, or be completly open with. You cant just say you are....you have to feel it.
2006-10-02 18:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jovanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I think" it's when u don't have to ask him too many questions but when u start to tell yurself the answers without having to ask him anything........and your still calm/happy with the results, i hope u understand me love is complicated but good.
2006-10-02 18:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by fraggle rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u probably are in love with your bf
2006-10-02 18:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will know when you are
2006-10-02 18:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋