.yeah i know i should have thought about this before i got my consequences but i dont know who to go to. My mom just got in rehab for drinking and my father is in the hospital dying of cancer.I live with my aunt who is very elderly and i dont want her to stress out about it. my boyfriend had just got into a serious car accident and hopefully he'll make it from brain injuries. what should i do my heart is so heavy right now.
2006-10-02 11:37:48 · 19 answers · asked by yoshi_gurl08 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well, you play you pay..that's the way it goes
2006-10-02 11:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you because I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant. My dad died when I was 5 and my mom was an alcoholic too. My family blamed me for everything and the fathe rof the baby was in the same boat as I was.
THis is what i did. I don't know ifyou have a job or not but ifyou don't get one. Once you get a job save your money up. Go to the court house and find out about getting emancipated. This is when the judge rules you as an adult.
In the mean time go to your local family independence agency or social services and get on state assistance.
I didn't want to stay with my mother so the three of us went to a womens shelter. We explained to them our situation and they hleped us get an apartment and all the stuff we needed.
But between the two of you, you'll both have to have jobs. How else will you pay your bills.
Being in a shelther is the only way that you can get help moving into an apt. Unless your aunt will evict you.
Once you get on your feet things will get better.
If you want you can IM me and we can talk sometime.
2006-10-02 19:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to make it worse, but you might want to consider adoption. I don't think you will be able to support that baby all by yourself, with no family support, and no boyfriend. Contact some adoption agencies, and see if you can do an open adoption so you can see who your baby will go to. The road ahead will be VERY difficult if you keep the baby, especially considering how your life already is. I'm sorry that you're dealing with all of these problems right now. Keep your head up, and try to be positive. The baby can feel all of your negative emotions. Make whatever decision is best for the baby, not just for you. I wish you all the best of luck, and hope things get better for you. God bless!
2006-10-02 18:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I don't know what your beliefs are, but for someone so young with sooo much going on right now, maybe it is a good idea if you terminate your pregnancy. I am 22 with 1 little boy and I have alot of help, and it is still VERY hard. You may quite possibly be on your own with this one. Trust me, once the baby is here, there is NO going back. If your boyfriend has brain injuries, he will be of NO help, also, ur mother is not sturdy, nor is ur father. You should be there for both ur parents who are going through alot also. I hope everything works out, and even if you go through with the pregnancy, there are people who will be there!
2006-10-02 18:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by lindalbnj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a crisis pregnancy hotline/center. They offer free counceling. You are faced with some big decisions. Either way, you must grow up and take responsiblilty. Do you want to raise your child? Then start making good decision now and making a plan for when the baby is born. The pregnancy center can help you along in this. If you don't want to raise this baby, then consider adoption and work with the pregnancy center, they will help you find a couple you want to raise him/her. Good luck!
2006-10-02 18:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are loads of support centres out there all you have to do is give them a ring and talk to someone and they can help you with the baby hosing and tell you about what you can get finacially but in your circumstances (now i dont take this lightly ) you might be able to talk to someone about abortion if you would consider it that is
2006-10-02 18:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Maree M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your aunt she is responsible for you andeverything you do you need her help and tell the boyfriends family.
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i just checked you old questions . im curious how could a 16 year old have an 11 year old child. you lied some where sweet heart. why
2006-10-02 18:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray
2006-10-02 19:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by I_Taste_Like_Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you still have the time to go on yahoo answers if you're so desperate?
-adoption
-based on your given info... neither you nor your kid will have a good life
-put him/her in an orphanage
-study like there's no tmr
-have a good career
-get your child back
2006-10-02 21:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the child's ware fare office and get food stamps or you could possibly give your child up for adoption or get an abortion (which is wrong) but keep your head up and if things turn out for the worst then keep your head up high!!!!
2006-10-02 20:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by i love NOLA! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get WIC which will help you get some food
Also you can apply for the medicare card that will pay all your bills and your babies birth.
2006-10-02 19:04:48 · answer #11 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋