Why do other woman tell you the dumbest things while you are pregnant?

Question

I mean for one it isnt asked than they tell you things like "oh you will start trowing up at the 4th week " or " as you get further along you will forget everything .."so on and so forth? Also what is the weirdest thing you have been told that would happen to you or things you should eat or not Things you should or shouldnt do etc

Answer 1

OMG I know exactly what you mean. Everybody wants to put their two cents in about everything you are going through, etc. A friend of mine is continuously making negative remarks towards everything I do in this pregnancy. She thinks I am wrong to drink lemonade, and she gets mad if I disagree with her on anything. The last thing I needed was a lot of negativity, so I decided to distance myself from her for awhile. I screen my phone calls and only answer when I feel like it.. LOL I am not sure why my friend would be jealous since she has a 9 year old daughter and a 1 and half year old son. I have learned to ignore people since I have become pregnant because they can say the stupidest things! LOL Hang in there, and you'll learn to ignore them really fast! hehe Good luck with your pregnancy!! :)

Answer 2

I dont know why they start to tell you things like that... all women are different and are going to react differenty to being pregnant.... now the whole forgetting thing is half way true... its not that you are going to forget everything its just that with some women they dont really think about everything that is going on around them they are thinking about how they are feeling, and about whats happening with their body and the baby. I was told that you can eat soft cheese, nothing that had green tea in it, no cold deli meat, then i was also told that you are not supose to eat anything with peanuts in it because it might give the baby an allergic reaction to them.. but then i had WIC and they encouraged you to eat peanut butter... i dont know.

Answer 3

I think they are just trying to share their experiences. Unfortunately we who are currently pregnant are significantly out numbered by those who are not but have a story about cousin so and so or when they were pregnant...etc. We get inundated with these helpful hints until we are ready to have an impromptu bout of morning sickness right on their shoes :) It does get really annoying at times.

As far as weird things I have been told not to do... My mom told me I couldn't pull weeds or pickup anything off the floor that required any sort of effort because it would strain my uterus and I could miscarry. Hey at least I haven't had to pull a single weed in 3 months. Mom decided the lawn mower was too heavy for me too and sent her lawn guy over to mow. Yes I am being spoiled but do you seriously think I am going to complain?

Answer 4

I think a lot of women do that because they are excited for you, and just want to give you some advice.

However, most people don't know everything. So they'll probably either tell you things that happenned to them but which won't necessarily happen to you, or they'll just repeat what their mother or a close friend told them. Usually, it's better to get info from books which are known to have good information, or to ask a doctor (or a nurse who works with babies, etc.).

Answer 5

Everyone's pregnancy is different, however I don't think it's kind to share horror stories of pregnancies with first time mothers. Never think negative while your pregnant. Just listen to your Doctor and tune all others out. (with the exception of your own mother) She's knows best and you will more than likely have some same situations as she did while pregnant. So hang in there and learn how to just turn people off when you're not in the mood to listen to them. Also there is some wonderful books out there to read and to assure yourself of what is and isn't normal during preganancies. I admire my daughter in law because with her first child she bought her own parenting books rather than listening to me or her mother. She did the right thing and more importantly the smartest thing.

Answer 6

I think it just brings back memories of when they were pregnant and they think they can help in some way. I have learned to just listen. Everyone carries differently, and NO pregnency is the same. I was told Ieveryone knew that I was having a girl because my behind got WIDE. The craziest thing was after labor the doctor said she was going to add another stitch...that would make my husband happy! Thanks the last thing I wanted to think about after labor. I look back and laugh now.

Answer 7

I think its a case of
" the older a man gets the further he walked to school as a boy"

The further way from having had a baby a woman makes out she a super hero cause shes carried a child and given birth.

Ive done it myself.....then again I AM a super hero so there you go,

Answer 8

Not long after I arrived in Hawaii, I became pregnant with our first son. When at my in-laws' house, I discovered the cool breeze at the top of their stairs outside. While sitting there and inhaling the air, my father-in-law all of a sudden said, " You know that you will have a hard labor now, because you sat at the top of the stairs, right?" I told my husband that I couldn't stand his parents and it only got worst from there. That was 11 years ago, though,...they now know that I don't believe in superstitions.

Answer 9

If I raised my hands above my head the baby would get the cord around it's neck and choke.

Most women are just trying to be helpful but others just like to prove that they are wise and mighty in the way of motherhood. My take is that if someone doesn't ask for advice, don't offer any!

And remember this: People's opinions are like butts. Everyone's got one and nobody wants to hear them. LOL

Answer 10

Everyone will give you their opinion. To put it crudely, opinions are like a**holes, everyone has one..... I won't finish the statement :-) I had a freind tell me not to wear maternity shirts that fit closely, because it looks disgusting. What I am supposed to wear, a mumu or a poncho? I was more offended than anything.