I'm 19 and I have a relationship with a man who is 38, but he is a close family's friend. I met him when I was 17, but our relationship started 1 yr ago. Should I let my family know about it? please help.
2006-10-02 11:01:24 · 23 answers · asked by happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no
2006-10-02 11:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats a good question. Infatuation makes people do things against the norm. I can understand why a 19 yr old might have a crush on an older man. I can also understand how an older man would be thrilled to be dating a much younger woman... at least until he realizes there is no substance to the relationship and it's only based on physical attration...
wouldn't worry about letting mom and dad know at this point. Until you know, at least, if the relationship is serious or seriously physical... You might want to re-think...what it is you have with the guy first... and talk it over with him. If he says no don't tell them, it's likely that he is only using you for sex. If he says yes you should tell them, then he is probably very respectful of the your relationship....
Either way.... if mom and dad find out...something will change. Your relationship with the man or your relationship with mom and dad....
But I bet they look at him as a preditor in spite of the family friendship...
THINK ABOUT THIS LONG AND HARD!
2006-10-02 11:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try dating a guy younger than you...When I get 38 I dont think I'll want a 19 yo girl that thinks shes soo much smarter than the "average" 19 yo. Grow up & find someone around you're age.
2006-10-02 11:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this....more than likely your family will not approve, at least not at first. However, if you and this man are serious about each other then go ahead and tell them. Since the relationship started when you were 18 you were both consenting adults and though they may not approve they can't stop you. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes why not!!?if youre both sincere with what you have for each other,there is no reason to hide it.he is a family friend,well with his good intentions the whole family will understand.it would be a great conflict if they will know it later or when there will be a problem,the friendship will be at stake then...so dont worry tell your family the truth and im sure you will have peace of mind and the relationship will be stronger!
2006-10-02 11:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let somebody know, i'm not very particular with age differences...but he's really too old of you, do u realize that if he got a kid at 18, he can be ur dad, but of course, when u are matured enough, age doesnt matter.....u have to let someone from the family know...they can give u some advice too....which will all on your best interest....
2006-10-02 11:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would since its been a yr. Your family may be shocked at first, but ease into it, make them understand how it happened and why. Prepare yourself, some of your family may not be happy about it. Stand your ground tho. Best of luck to ya.
2006-10-02 11:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell them. And I wouldn't date someone who is that much older than myself. You have nothing in common. I'm 33 and dating a 38 year ols man is pushing the limits!!
2006-10-02 11:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by tyrawooley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was 37 and you were 18 when you met ? I would be very leery of the guy. I think you are playing with fire and are going to end up used and broken hearted. But, it's your choice. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-02 11:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya age don't matter wish i had a young-in all i get the old-in ones iam 43 and ifyour in love and your 17 or 19 thats ok
2006-10-02 12:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by jaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll probably just ignore me and realise I was right in another few months... but that man is sick! Any man that age that would date a girl (cause honey, trust me, you are not a woman yet), has serious issues! I know you probably think you're mature, and he probably tells you that you are, but you are not a woman yet! I hope you do tell your parents... amybe they can knock some sense into you!
2006-10-02 11:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋