My boyfriend went home (1 block away) today and I was helping him fix lunch for work tonite. He stays at my house because he dont feel comfortable at his own home because his adult kid is livng there with his girlfriend. His 28 yr old mooching son was washing dishes and said "this isnt my home". I expected my boyfriend to say "well its always your home" or "sure it is", but he didnt. He did not even comment. I suspect he is getting sick of his kids moving in and living at home. I try to stay mute, amd sometimes I think these kids need a big dose of Dr. Phil.
Do you think maybe ole dad has gotten his fill of them?
This kid has been in trouble for DUI, theft, Arson and some other things. Its a bad situation. How would you handle it?
2006-10-02 10:57:35 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If the "kid" is 28, I'd send him out on his ***! I'm 28 and have been on my own since I was 15! He needs to kick his "kid" out of the house just so he doesn't rob his "kid" of valuable life lessons like work, bills and just plain old responsibility. Both of my kids know that if they don't go to college within one year of graduating high school that they will be TOLD to leave. Sorry if I come across as callous, but I've NEVER had it as easy as this "kid" you talk about.
2006-10-02 11:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by HappyApple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing I think your right about the kid needing a good old Dr. Phil dose. But if the kid is really an adult kid then they need to realize that they are going to wake up and not exactly have daddy to help him out anymore.
I would tlak to your boyfriend. I would pull him aside and say look buddy, your kid is an adult and needs some direction because obviously he hasnt had any in the past few years with his history. You have to make some decisions because he is not helping his kid he is paralyzing him. The "kid" shouldnt be talking to you like that. You have a right to be in that house. Its not the kids house its your bfs.
If that doesnt work and things get worse, I would eventually have to make some ultimatim.
2006-10-02 18:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Dad is getting enough of it. Hes seeing the real picture. So many parents baby them to death. I think Id handle it by giving them so much time to get a job and save enough so they can get their own place. I would keep on him too..just so he knows his dad is serious.
My hubby and I have been thru this. And thats what we did, and it worked. Good luck.
2006-10-02 18:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr. Phil!!!!
2006-10-02 17:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your bf, it's his problem, don't pressure him on his issues. ask him how he feels instead of coming online and asking what others think. understanding is reached through confrontation.
2006-10-02 18:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by tonymandotcom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes enough is enough!
2006-10-02 18:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋