2006-10-02 10:39:03 · 21 answers · asked by beautiful17 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can't make the jerk take responsibility, so figure out what you want to do. Decide if you want to place the child for adoption or raise it yourself. If you do raise him or her, do as someone else said, nail the bum for child support
2006-10-02 10:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're not at least 18 and able to support yourself without help from Mom/Dad, etc., I would advise looking into giving the baby for adoption. Find an objective pregnancy counseling agency and they can help. You will never be able to force or coerce him into caring about or supporting the baby. Even if you get the courts to make him support the baby, he will still get off without having to pay, in many cases. He'll have a warrant for not paying, but you'll never see your money.
There are thousands of families out there who want a baby and can support it, and you can choose the family you think is best, you can continue to have contact with them if you want, etc.
This is YOUR choice, and we can't make it for you here. This is only my opinion and what I think I would do. But make the choice that is best for you and your baby in the long term. Think about how you will feel about your decision 2, 5, 15 years from now.
p.s. I know a pregnancy counselor, if you want her name/number email me.
2006-10-02 10:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had gone through this same thing...I threw my daughter's daughter biological father out of my home when I was 4 months pregnant (he was doing some things that I didn't feel was safe for my children) and from the time I had thrown him out until now (my little girl is almost 17 mos old) he has has nothing to do with her, I had alot of complications during my pregnancy and had gone through it with the help of family and friends, if you feel that you are emotionally stable enough to care for your baby then I would keep him or her and would force the deadbeat to pay child support.
2006-10-02 10:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by the_mystical_runt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you have options keeping it aborting it and adoption. You have to decide for the baby and not for your self. Ask yourself what kind of life do you want this child to have and what kind of life can you provide for the child.
You can not force a man to be a father you can make him help support the child or you can have him sign his rights away then you won't get support but you will be more free of him and not to ever have to bother with him. Also if you find the man of your dreams and fall in love and get married he can adopt your child to help give a since of security in the child's life.
You need your family and you need a support system to help you through this.
2006-10-02 10:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a little time. He may warm up to the idea. Otherwise just get help from family and friends. His family may even help. When you have the baby get a paternity test if either one of you isn't sure of the father. If he still wants nothing to do.... take that fu cker to court and make the dumb$hit pay child support. He is missing out on a great thing!
2006-10-02 10:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by jade_d05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is a decision that you are going to have to make are you going to give up for adoption or keep the baby. If your going to keep the baby your going to do what it takes to provide for your child. Dont worry about that sorry jerk if he doesnt want to help then you and your baby do not need him. Nailing him for child support would be helpful though
2006-10-02 15:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption,abortion, or raise the child yourself. If you decide to keep your baby I would give dad some space if this is his first. It may take him a while to get used to the idea of it. It took me a few months to get used to being a father. Maybe he will warm up to it. Its a tough decision, think about it alot because it may affect you the rest of your life.
2006-10-02 10:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by kewlguy311 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to think about what you want for yourself and your unborn child. Where do you want to live, how are you going to support yourself. Take a breath and think about yourself right now. You can't force him to do anything he does not want to do. Yes, you should take him to court and get a paternity test and then make him pay child support but more importantly just think about how you are going to provide the best life for you and your child. Now is the time to stop worrying about him and think about yourself and your new beautiful baby.
2006-10-02 10:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not about to give you a stupid and dum answer, but you can't make anyone do anything that they do not want to. Only thing I can tell you is I would put him on child support because it takes two people to make and raise a baby. I wouldn't be worried about it because it's his lost not yours.
2006-10-02 18:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by BlackBerry DymondTink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋