Would you still marry someone if, after you were "engaged" they told you that they were not able to have children? Let's say that they have known this for 10 years, but didn't share the information until after they knew they were going to marry you?
2006-10-02 10:23:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FYI... this question has to do with someone I know... it's the woman who withheld this info.
2006-10-02 10:37:11 · update #1
this is too important to withhold from someone you are engaged to.if i was the guy i probably would postpone everything until everything is discussed out in the open.especially if i want children.the thing is ...if she could keep this from him ,what else could she be hiding.if she didn't trust the relationship enough to be honest about her health, how serious is she about being with him.if she really loves this man ,sheshould have told him right away. if he really wants to be with her and she couldn't have kids ,they could adopt or maybe do artificial insemination.point is...she should have told him right away.i say pospone the wedding.if it is meant to be ,they'll get past this and eventually marry,but i would wait because trust has been violated.
2006-10-02 11:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by stoneripple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its better than never telling them or waitin until after they are married.
But.. before getting engaged i would assume that the whole idea of kids came up. THEN it would have been appropriate to discuss it.
but.. sometimes engagements are sprung on people.. so maybe they didn't have this converstaion until afte they were engaged.
But the important thing is that they have NOW had it and they need to decide if that the fact that they will not be able to have kids will be a deal breaker or not.
then there is the whole trust issue too.. so counceling will be needed.
At best I'd say that the marriage should be delayed until they get this all worked out.
2006-10-02 10:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The person should have shared this before they got engaged. Thats not right, and Id say that if the other person wanted to break off the engagement, then theyd have that right. This is if the other person is wanting kids.
2006-10-02 10:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just because he can't have children does not mean you can't have any. Adopt kids. That is if you really love the man. if it Will bother you for the rest of you life you better sit down and talk to him.
2006-10-02 10:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lori K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'd want to marry someone who was dishonest about something so important.
2006-10-02 10:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends if you want children? Why was it kept such a secret? And I would be ANGRY!
2006-10-02 10:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋