My wife is desperate to have children,but i am lead-free.....This is my second marriage we spoke about having children b4 we got married and i said i would love children knowing full well that i was a jaffa.............my 1st marriage ended cause of this....Should i "come" clean and tell her the truth or wait until we go for tests and pretend i didn;t know although this information is on my medical records
2006-10-02 10:12:30 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
would be nice if you tell her the truth. I mean there are so many ways to have children this days. You can adopt kids :-) Having kids solidify your marriage but not having one does not mean you should also end it. Give her some benefit of a doubt. she might actually be cooler than your first wife :-)
2006-10-02 10:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. If she finds out later that you lied she will be more pissed than if you told her. There is a chance that she could never find out, but do you really want to take that chance? Your first wife obviously didnt love you enough as a person to accept that you couldn't have kids, I think that you could be selling your wife short thinking the worse case senario, but the lie will probably make it worse. To avoid a much larger fight, i would get it over with now and come clean! (adoption is a great thing to consider too)
2006-10-02 17:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kassy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for god's sake, tell the woman. Then discuss other means of her having a baby. There's always adoption too.
You'd think if children are a high priority in her life and YOU LIED she has a right to have the marriage annualled!!
2006-10-02 17:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should have been honest before , and u lead her to believe that u were going to have a family with her better be ready to have that lil surgery reversed when u sit down and tell her u r a liar. She wanted children and u are now not the person she thought u were. This is not something u keep from someone who wants to someday have children. ready to go under the knife again ?
2006-10-02 17:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TSK TSK YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD HER! if you knew that was one of her ambitions then you should have told her and more importantly if you loved her you wouldn't have lied, that is the biggest NO in a relationship always be honest dont beat around the bush or try to sugar coat it be true and straight out honest tell her now
2006-10-02 17:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by charmed12184 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't tell her now, think about how she would feel should she find out that u knew all along. If it's in your records, there's a good chance she will find out about it if u go for tests so I suggest u tell her as soon as u can.
2006-10-02 17:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you do that? You better tell that women the truth and maybe you all can adopt a child-or become foster parents-so many kids need good homes.
2006-10-02 23:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty big thing to lie to your wife about......let's say that it's your wife's first marriage, and she is against divorce.....now you've screwed her out of one of the best things in life INTENTIONALLY. You're a loser........tell her so she can move on.
2006-10-02 18:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth shall set you free
2006-10-02 17:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say come clean. this is a really bad situation you've gotten yourself into. What if after 5 years of marriage, she told you she was a man. I'd be pretty pissed. Your dead regardless. Adopt?
2006-10-02 17:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by barrier method 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋