My life feels so devoid of meaning and purpose....?

Question

I am a high school student in grade ten. Somewhat recently it has seemed that my life is so completely empty. Day after day I go to school where I work for seemingly no reason. I have good friends, though not many. I do very well in school, I'm somewhat athletic, and I'm relatively good looking. But I just don't know what I'm doing here, or what I should be working towards. It seems impossible that I could find a girlfriend, due to the fact that I am not at all outgoing, and am a bad conversationalist. I'm not even sure what type of advice I'm looking for, but I feel as though I need some sort of guidance.

Answer 1

At your age it is quite normal to feel this way. You don't know who you are and what you want to do with your life. Plus you don't have any good experience to allow you to be good at anything, especially relationships.

I am 50 now, but when I was 15 I felt much like you and planned my own suicide. Luckily I didn't go through with it, but the next few years were tough. Everyone is different in how they resolve their personal issues, but the key is to get out there and gain more experience. If can get over your fear of making mistakes and looking foolish, you will gain greatly from the experience.

Try approaching girls you like and after you get to know them a bit, ask them out. Don't let this terrify you. The trick is not to make a big deal of it. If she accepts great, if not don't let the sky fall and get discouraged. Statistically, you will succeed given enough trys and enough experience. Try reading some self help books about dating.

In terms of your life and what to do. Don't worry. Study hard and keep going with your education as long as you can. Keep as many doors open as possible as you proceed. Slowly narrow down your interests as your proceed. Try talking to people who work in areas that you are interested. Try different jobs and gain knowledge and experience. The pieces will all come together in time.

You will be fine. You are clever and good looking. All the rest is hard work and experience. You can do it. Good luck!

Answer 2

your in high school because your learning so your life will have MORE purpose than it already has. you are luckey to have even good friends all though not many you luckeyer than you think you have freinds you have good grades an you an athlete an good looking....if you would work on being outgoing an be better at a conversation it still would not make a difference...not because you have bad luck or no girls are interested but because it sounds like you dont know were to look for a girl friend....start trying harder on that an then when you get one let thing go how its supposed to you wont really need good convo. skills....although you might need to be just a tad out going....if you could see a counsler at your school or something im sure that you will get better help then we give....but if you listen to nothing else i have wrote to you then please keep this in mind.....every one has a purpose in life but there task is to find out what it is......you need to do that...mabe it is to learn a certain lesson or to meet a certain person or even just to be here to be here but there is something out there an you will fin it with time your young an have got a good amount of life left to find that out so if i was you i would love my self an tell my self i was important an just live life one day at a time!!!! good luck an i hope i have helped an you find what your looking for =)m have a nice day bye bye

Answer 3

It shounds like you have a lot going for you, being somewhat athletic, smart and good looking. But it also sounds like you are bored with your life as it is. High school will pass and the work you do there will help you get into college and also hopefully challenge and exercise your brain. As far as a purpose, I bet you could find someplace to volunteer. There are many people who need a helping hand. You could tutor or be a big brother or volunteer at a shelter. I think you may find that doing those kinds of things will help you appreciate everything you do have going for you and at the same time, you will be helping someone who needs it.

Answer 4

First of all I think its important for you to realize that your feelings are not unique. Many, many people at your age feel the same way. Our society is one that demands instand gratification and you are one that has bought in to society's demands. I think what you need to realize is that life is all about living. In life we have good time, bad times and times in between the two.

You are tired of hearing this but you are so young and you have so much to look forward to. I can't begin to list the great things you have coming your way. The thing is, life is a journey to each of these things. I promise you life is not all about happy times, nor is it all about sad times. You need to enjoy each day, absorb and learn what you need to make you a better person and then take life as it comes while you try to work toward established goals.

The better a person you are and the more prepared you are for the future, the more opportunities will come your way. Some people set small goals in life and work toward them. You may want to try this. If you're religious, you can find a lot of comfort in a higher being. The main thing is for you not to give up and keep waiting for the highs in life.

Please know that millions of people would do anything possible to be in your shoes. You are so lucky. So enjoy what you can, be prepared, then live life to the fullest.

I envy you so.

Tx Guy

Answer 5

You seem exactly how I was last year in tenth. Smart and hardworking, but seemingly pointless. A few close friends. Athletic and somewhat good looking, but don't know why you're here on this world. I still haven't figured it out, but what I'm convinced is that you just have to keep living the best way that you know of until your purpose is made clear. Apparently it happens to all of us, but I don't really thing that's true. Perhaps you were put on this earth to teach a world peacemaker. Or maybe you develop a cure for cancer. It's all very obscure. We can't look too far into the future, but we can look far enough ahead to understand what we want to do. The best we can do as teenagers is live in the present and be the very best that we can. Believe me, my purposed hasn't been made clear yet, but God seems to be slowly building a path for me to walk on.

Answer 6

well i dont wanna type a whole story on my views. but heres my idea. Find something your good at. but also you enjoy it. Do it and do it good. If you try hard enough than you will go somewhere in that field. once you get a stable home life. Then the good stuff starts. Get a substantial amount of money (because sadly everything fun costs money) and begin to do things that are exhiliarting and fun. Why? Because life is about living. and in this world of stress. its the best thing you can do. I know this is easier said than done. but it can be done.

Answer 7

since you are seeking help and understanding that is a good start it means you are ready to have a change of life, instead of pouting and staying depressed.
you need confidences in your self. you need to focus on wanting a girlfriend bad enough that you will not be so shy and discouraged. all you need to say to someone is Hello . how are you? and take it from there.
You need your education and learning . Don't let anything or anyone keep you from that.
Not being out going is not that important . you mention you are somewhat athletic. that is a start .
don't beat your self up . get confidence and the rest will follow.

Answer 8

So you think you have it figured out at grade ten. The average life expectancy, assuming your not an alkie or druggie, is about seventy years. Since when have you seen a movie or read a book and in the first twenty minutes figured it out. Most people have at least seven career changes in their lives. Over twenty five percent of us have more than one marriage.

Here is the point. concentrate on what makes you happy content and fufilled. You dont need girls, drugs alcahol, or peer pressure to do that. Simply follow your heart and your perception of god and try to determine the plan for your life by what leads you in a positive direction and what makes you a contributing member of society as a whole. You have lots of life to live and trying to race to the end to precognate what is about to come serves no one including yourself. You can plan your life and it does what it wants to ....the fun in life is not the destinations, its the journey.

Answer 9

What you do need is not advice what you need is to volunter to go work in a country where all the finer things in life are not so and learn to value what you have if you are not feeling it with all you have then go help those who have not..sorry to sound as if I am attacking you it is just a constant thing I hear at work and it upsets me to know others where i have gone to visit have but only a dream of what we have.
Un-less your ACTING> Good show.

Answer 10

you are pretty deep for someone that's only in tenth grade, but to be honest you have a lifetime to find your purpose in life. no one knows what their true purpose in life is right away. maybe its just hard to find someone you can relate to, but for now should just experience life and what it has to offer and then will you be better able to conceptualize what it is you want to do. All i can say is you are young, don't worry about it and have fun, b/c these are years where you can not be responsible. I