I am 26 years old and I have two kids and I'm in a bad marriage, hes not the father , how do I get out?

Question

With no money I had to quit my job I have nothing...Any suggestions please...

Answer 1

will it do any good or are you going to continue to make bad decisions?

Answer 2

When my daughter was little, I was in this same mess. I decided to get out, so this is what I did. I had a good friend take care of my daughter "part" of the time, and my sister the other part. I had a little car which was on it's last leg (so to speak,) and I used it to start my own cleaning business. I started out cleaning in senior citizens
mobile home parks, they are usually pretty clean already, and these people normally just want the dusting, mopping,and the bathrooms done. I charged 25.00 an hour, and it took just over an hour to clean these places.
If they didn't want me to use "my own" cleaning products, I used theirs. My cleaning product was Mr. Clean, (the greenish yellow kind) and what ever kind of furniture polish you can afford. And the people usually have a mop & vaccuam cleaner. It is tough at first, but I ended up with
4 clients a day, 5 days a week. That's $2400.00 per month. It's not a lot, but it is more than "nothing." And I ended up with my freedom and self respect. If you are really that unhappy, try to do "something" and start thinking about it now, or it will get worse. Good luck and God bless

Answer 3

Im so sorry that this had to happen to you and your kids.

First thing you need to do is (its much easier said then done) Find a job, even if its not paying you what you want at least its a start waitressing is a good one because you may not get a lot hourly but your tips will add up Open a bank account (secretly) If you have to set it up like its a savings account for your kids and see if you can get a PO BOX. They cost but not a lot that way if you have any mail you dont want your partner to know about you can send it there. But if you dont have that kind of time or your partner is abusive call 911 and run like H$%L. He's not the father of your kids so at least you dont have to worry about fighting for custody. I know it may seem low but go to your local housing athority or Public housing and if you tell them you have kids and really need some where to stay then they may can help you If you have a job they will charge you through the roof, so lie and tell them you dont so that your rent will be low.That way you wont have a lot to pay in rent and its just temporary until you can find a permant place. If you feel that he/she will stalk you get an Restraining order so that he/she cant come near you or your kids with out getting arrested. IF you have to take this step let the people who is filing the restraining order know that you and your partner are seperated. If you have friends or family members that will allow you to stay with them until you get on your feet take that opportunity!! Just get focused and stay strong!!

Answer 4

Since he's not the father, that's a little easier 'cause you won't have to fight any custody battles. First, count that as a blessing. Second, find a local church or shelter and ask as much info as you can before planning. Third, pray about it then, talk to him about his ways to see if he'll compromise and change. If after a little while nothing changes, arrange to go either to a shelter or a family member for a while. While there, apply for assistance(be sure to pack any important papers you'd need to apply for help). You'll get assistance such as medicaid, food stamps, even cash assistance since you're not working and they'll also help you find a job. Pray and Plan girl.

Answer 5

First get you and the kids out of that situation, especially if it is abusive. There are womens shelters that can help you short term, but you will have to find a job and get on your feet. If you have a supportive family than you are even better off. You can do it and you have to do it for your precious children. Act now.... you'll be glad you did. Take a leap of faith,

Answer 6

whew, i know and understand exactly what you are going through. i am 26 years old with two children also, i stayed on maternity leave for my now 8 month old son until i just voluntarily quit. when my boyfriend and i were about to split, i had to call my local housing authority for some support, and emergency housing. i was put in touch with about three different people that were trying to help me. also, with no money how were we going to eat? i was going to go to the family independence agency to get on welfare. (that is what it is for, when single parents are in need). i hope that all really works out for you, i am praying on your situation to get better.

keep your children in good spirits. do not allow them to see your pain as hard as it may be.

also, get on your "A" game and start a friend of court case against your children's father.

Answer 7

Move out and into a friend or family members house. he should get the message then divorce him. Plus, maybe the person you move in with Can help you with the kids and u can get job for the divorce money if u don't have it.

~singer_chick

Answer 8

First, find a job. Make enough money for you and your kids. Then find a house and get divorce quickly. It takes time but with faith anything is possible.

Answer 9

Don't you have family? There's somebody out there I am sure. Even as suggested above , shelter's are better than abuse. Hell if all else fails , go to a church and talk to the decons!

Answer 10

a local church might help you out. There's womens shelters that will help get you started on your new life. Don't do it just for your kids(even tho that's a great reason if nothing else), but do it for yourself also.

Answer 11

First, get a job. Try to connect wiht your husband. If it doesn't work, divorce, find a job, and go to live with a relative or something. Hope I helped. :)