what to do in that case?

Question

i got married 5 yrs ago & have a boy,my husband is not romantic at all,but (i used to love him),now i feel that i hate him .i even hate to be with him everytime him came to me.i really dont have the courage to talk with him,so i pretend to love him & care about him.all that make me nervous all the time,my heart refuse him but my mind tell me dont destroy your whole life & family, your son's life.what should i do .please dont tell me to see a psycology doctor cause tried in no use.im really tired ,please i need help seriously.

Answer 1

its called time apart, give the time to be from each other. love never goes away but if you feel the love an't there anymore free yourself not only because you think you hate him hate is a strong word to use . if you don't have courage to tell him whats the problem then hun get some you need to give him that respect. you will destroy your child's life by staying in a relationship that is love less you are teaching you child the wrong thing love . hey maybe you need to find that place that made you fall in love with him the first time . the wrong thing to do is stay if you cant see a future with this person. your child can feel your pain even though you don't understand.

Answer 2

I have been through this with my husband many years ago, I didn't think I could ever love him again, We are now married 14 years we have both grown up a lot and worked through our issues and now I love him more than I ever have. I'm not saying this will work for you and I don't know how or why it worked for me. Do what is in your heart and what is best for your child.

Answer 3

Have you ever experienced depression or as it was called the baby blues. (sentimiento de anciedad ) sounds likes this is what you are going through no one wakes up in a day and suddenly hates their spouse t is either something he has done and your holding on to that or it is something you should look into not only as you stated a doctor but your priest or what ever is your faith can help to look inside you to find a surface to what ails you..

Answer 4

Seeing the psychologist didn't work because he didn't validate what you wanted to hear! No counseling is going to work if you expect them to just tell you want you want to hear. What you want is for someone to give you permission to break up with your husband, the man you insisted on marrying five years ago, believing he was better than white on rice! So what happened to this magical love?
I'll bet you found some greener grass somewhere, and you're tempted to try it out.

Go back to the psychologist, and try again. This time, don't try to get him/her to tell you what you want to hear. Lay the truth out on the table.

Answer 5

I understand of you thinking of your son. I divorced my ex when our boy was 1yr. old. But you have to ask yourself what kind of life is he going to have with a mom who is sad, lonely and not in love with his dad? Not only that, but how about you? Don't you deserve to love someone and be loved by someone who means something to you? I don't understand parents who stay together for the sake of the kids (other than financially). Trust me, kids feel when a relationship is bad and that is what they will model thier relationships after, thier parents. Think of yourself and him and do what your heart tells you. Good luck! you will find love again!

Answer 6

Divorce happens more often within the first 7 years... try a get away for the 2 of you... remember what made you love him and see if you can get back that love.

Answer 7

5years is a long tyme2jus throw in the towel,u got a kid now.Try n rememba wat attracted u2 him in the beginning,talk2him.Try n spice up ur marriage by doing diff things as a family,as a couple.

Wen he's free arrange 4 som1 2stay with ur kid so u2 can go out,have sometime2urselves.Try n make it work 4 ol ur sakes.Good luck

Answer 8

Read the book "The five Love languages". It will change your marriage!