can't bear to be near my ex, but he was good in bed. should i just get sex and then go?
2006-10-02 09:02:03 · 28 answers · asked by paywithnaivety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes of cousre one thing he was good for use and abuse
2006-10-02 09:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by honey s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When everyone's telling you no I am telling you differently lol:
depends what you mean as 'can't bear'.
It is usually ok for exs to be used for sex as long as you are still friends (in a mutual way) and that you both know it is only a sex buddy thing.
If you mean can't bear as in he had cheated on you or that you two can't stop arguing when you both meet each other, or in anyway that both of your scars are too deep, then no; don't use each other for sex.
It's really more under the condiion that you two can still be friends kind of thing than whether he or she is really good in bed.
2006-10-02 09:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and he are both absolutely clear that the two of you'll just be scratching an itch in bed, nothing more, and that in no way this means you and he are getting back, then, well, go for it.
But use protection, as if your ex were a stranger, even if you both liked to ride bareback while you were together. Neither of you knows where the other has been since you broke up, so be safe.
2006-10-02 10:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... why would you want sex with someone who you cant bear even if the sex was great? It's to risky to have sex with an ex you'll only end up getting hurt, or wires will get crossed. Walk away and don't even go back for sex... his you ex for a reason!
2006-10-02 09:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both in the same frame of mind and know that it is not going to go any further or get you back together again.
It can all turn VERY messy if one of you want just that little bit more.
My advice would be Don't even go there!!!
I did it and even though I said it was just sex and she agreed it was the same it all went horribly wrong.
Good luck.
If you just want sex there are plenty of people out there looking for the same. I'm sure you wouldn't find it too difficult to find someone.
2006-10-02 09:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by paddymac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think to yourself why u split in the 1st place
have you both got new partners
how would getting involved again affect both your lifes
would you be prepared just to be a sexual object with no love then walk away when hes had his fill
in the end do what you want to do but think about it 1st , go out meet new people (theres lots out there gagging 4 it :) ) or untill the right time theres always the toys to experiment with :o
personaly i wouldnt go back i would look for a newer younger model
2006-10-02 09:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by dotty2361 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very unfair to your ex and even yourself as your leading your ex on and this will lead to increased heartache for them further down the line, you are also leaving yourself out in the dating front, therefore the only viable option is to stop sleeping with your ex & give me your telephone number.
2006-10-02 09:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by the_rock_7378 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - it's bad for you and for him.
You both need to move on, you will find someone just as good in bed, who is a hell of a lot nicer!
In the meantime, get a rampant rabbit.
2006-10-02 09:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u cant bear 2 be near him ... how u gonna have sex ..?
Dr Bad
(at least ur not one of those girls pretending ur not like us)
2006-10-02 09:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can do it without getting involved with him again, and if he doesn't mind, then carry on.
But make sure that you're not doing it because you can't face going out and finding someone new.
2006-10-02 09:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if following a prescribed state sanctioned sex-addict therapist's recommendation.
2006-10-02 09:15:51 · answer #11 · answered by mmmporg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋