My wife told me that she is in love with another man. What should I do?

Question

My wife told me last night that she is in love with another man. She says that she wants to get divorced so she can be with him. He is a co-worker of hers. We have 2 young children together. I don not want to get divorced, I still love her and want to make our marriage work. What should I do?

Answer 1

years ago when i was a little girl, mom had a boyfriend,she told dad she wanted to leave, she was in love with her boyfriend,dad stopped her,and fifty years later he would tell you to let her go, dad suffered all of his life,mom was mean to him, blamed him, and even on her death bed there was no remorse, no saying she was the least bit sorry. she blamed him their entire marriage for ruioning her life. dad loved mom too, and dad had 2 children also, but the conditions at home were horribble for us kid's,and for him. so you can't stop it you just have to let it run it's course, they say if you love some one let them go and if they come back to you they are yours.

Answer 2

I feel bad for you--this is a hard thing to accept. I don't think that you are going to change her mind, since she has said she loves someone else. Maybe I'm being naive, but she didn't say they were having an affair, just that she wants a divorce so that they can be together. For your kids' sake, try not to assume the worst, and think of this as her way of trying to avoid a worse situation, which is staying with you and cheating.
You could ask her to consider counseling, but I would not be hopeful that it will make her give him up.
The sad truth is that sometimes things like this happen, even when you don't go looking for them to happen. Again, I am assuming that she has done this the most honorable way she could, which is to tell the truth about how she feels instead of lying and sneaking around behind your back.
When you have some time to digest all of this, you will realize that you don't want to be married to a woman who is in love with someone else. Try to keep things civilized for the sake of your kids. Also, if this is some crazy infatuation, maybe if you are civil about it she will realize she was wrong, and you can get her back if that's what you want.
Whatever you do, don't grovel and tell her you can't live without her. Keep your dignity, and pray for strength.

Answer 3

I am sorry man. I really am. You can not force people to stay with you even if you took a vow of marriage. I have to say that the best thing to do is to give her the divorce if that is what she really wants. The worest part about it is she is being selfish and the ones that are going to get hurt the most is the 2 young children. I know it is going to be hard and I wish you all the luck man. You have to be there for you children though.

Answer 4

Freddie, you write that you have 2 young kids and that your wife works... the way I see it she just couldn't cope with all her obligations anymore, the daily routine of getting up early, dressing the kids, then go to work, come home and do housework, have little time for herself and fewer for the relationship with you.
She chooses a very selfish way out of this, understandable but not acceptable; instead of giving it time and waiting until the kids are older and easier to take care of, instead of investing time and energy in you and the family she chooses to take a new love and forgets about her responsabilities and vows.
It's very sad that she breaks up your family, very egoistic.
I feel sorry for you and hope that things will turn back to normal. I wouldn't just yet grant her a divorce and an "easy way out"... You must talk her to her senses, it might not all be lost yet.
But if you find out that she is determined then I guess that you will have to let her go. Make sure to tell her that under no circumstances you will ever take her back (even if in the end you would...). all the best to you

Answer 5

Sounds like it's over. She has already move on. Go on with your life. If she wanted the marriage, she would have told you that there was a problem long before the other man. It's going to be hard but it willp be harder knowing that she is in your bed thinking about another man.

Answer 6

She told you that to your face.... Oh boy I see why some women be getting whipped on.. That has to be some hurting Sh**.... I'm sorry that you picked a bad apple, but she is not the one for you..And also, please remember that children do not make a relationship... How sad to see a marriage go down the drain.. People take there wedding vows to lightly..... As a word of advise, I would continue to take care of my children... But I would leave her where she want to be.. OUT.....


I wish you luck and I hope you both remember that there's children involved.. Please don't be selfish in your decisions think about them.. NOT HER... She's gone.. Let her be.. That chapter in your life is over..

Pray and I promise you will be OK...
And as for her, she must don't know Karma...

Karma (is what goes around comes around)

Karma's a *****........

Answer 7

Let her go! I can promise you this will not last. That does not mean you let her take your 2 children with her. Now be prepared that when this relationship fails (and it will) she is going to ask to come back. Are you willing to let her back? Fight for your kids because she is really messed up right now and the last thing your 2 kids need to see is mommy making a big mess of her life.

Answer 8

Keep the kids, boot her out, and let him support her. Give her the divorce tell her to get a job so she can pay child support. Wish her a happy life, enjoy your children, get on with your life, and find a woman that will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Find a woman with some self respect, and respect for you and your children and values.

Answer 9

Go home and slap the ever lovin' dog p i s s out of the b i t c h!
Take some Crazy/Super Glue and glue her p i s s
flaps shut. Now, go to her new man's home and club the ol' boy like a baby seal out of season. Beat his a s s with no mercy. Forget praying and shrinks. This guy's already had his horse in his your stall. And if she blew him and you've kissed her since the ordeal began, he's planted his DNA into your body - it's as though you blew him. Get angry man and act on your impulses. Declare your actions a crime of passion. Kick both of their a s s e s and severly. Hurt them real bad, physically and mentally. You deserve to be treated better than this. They don't care about your emotions, so to hell with their's. Get Angry man, get outraged and have your day of revenge. They've really made you look stupid, insignificant and small - not much of a man.

Answer 10

There is a saying in one country that women have 100 holes out of which 99 are filled with money and the100th with- uh- uh- you know.Ask her which one you did not fill, and remember even if you change her mind then there is no gurantee that she wont repeat it again,and above all now that she is leaving you with children,she does not deserve to be your wife.