I have had a lot of family issues the last 3 years.(Dad and Stepmom).There has been a few times that I thought it was the end..But this guy that was helping me deal with the issues my dad and stepmom were blaming me for.He helped me realize it was not my fault..When I was depressed he knew what to say to me to make me feel better.
BUT while talking to him on Friday he told me he was moving out of town.Now I am very depress again.He was a preson that I could talk to about anything and I am VERY VERY SHY.
What can I do to keep my spirt up and not become depress???
My dad and stepmom do not know that I have been talking to him,they do not like him because of the job he has. BUT that is their problem I live on my own.
2006-10-02 08:40:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My email apapillondog@yahoo.com
Thank you all
2006-10-02 09:18:26 · update #1
remember all he has taught you and im sure he ill have a telephone ,there is no need to lose him ,but he has been trying to teach you to be strong,show him his careing has payed off,there is no need for you to be shy ,go to confident classes,there is a world out there,you have ur own life ,,,live it its yours ,,,do as you please ,,,,go where you like ,,,,dont be caught in the middle ,,tell them to grow up and leave you out of it ,,,if not move away get a new life,,,change your name if you like but be you ,,,,with out details its hard to say ,but you must know whats best for you and what your needs are ,,,,take them ,,,,but keep in touch with your friend ,he sound like hes good for you ,,,,write to him if you can ,,,if not write all your worries down and give them to him when you see him again ,,,,but you will probably find by this time you will have sorted them yourself anyway ,,,,you can do it ,,,if you need help then talk to us we are always here to help if we can ,,,,but be true to urself ,,,,,,you sound lik a loverly person ,,,dont let anyone spoil that ,,,,all the best ,,kat.
2006-10-02 09:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is an ugly desease. It can cause you so much pain. I am sorry that you are going through all that. I will share with you a few things that will be of help and I am saying this because I have been in your position before (depression I mean). Firstly, keep in touch with your friend if you can because then it will make you feel good that you did not totally lose him. Hang around positive people, definitely not negative people because you will be thinking just like they do and negativity and depression is not a good combo. Positive people will lift your spirits with good thoughts and accomplishments. Don't stay at home locked up all the time, keep yourself busy and always on the go. You will see yourself enjoying so much of life, that you won't have time to think about the things that were destroying you. An important thing that has helped me a great deal. Your environment, change it. Make all things around you brighter. For example, if you life in a home with dark walls and heavy curtains that keep the light out or use dark beddings or anything of the sort, make them brighter. Brighter things brightens your spirit. Dark this is more depressing and makes you feel like you are in a hole and can't get out. You can even change things like your hair color or make up and little thing that makes things seem brighter. The brighter your world (environment) is, the more your spirit will be lifted and become brighter. I wish you all the best as you sound like a wonderful individual and no one deserves to go through that situation. Brighter is the key word. God bless you.
2006-10-02 08:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change is really hard, espicially when it's a good friend who you've depended on through some hard times. Sometimes people are in our lives for a little while to help us, teach us or guide us through learning processes. Maybe he thinks you are capable of taking care of yourself now. Maybe you should try counseling if you suffer from depression. I dont know how old you are, but if you are in school you can join some clubs where you can meet some people with the same interests as you. I think (not sure) that shyness has something to do with self esteem, and if you build that up, you might find your shyness not being as much of a problem as it was.
That is too bad about your father and stepmom, at least this guy has a job, and is working. And you can still stay in touch with him. Good luck with this!!!
2006-10-02 08:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of phone cards. Just buy the amount of long distance minutes you can afford per month, then you can call him when things become unbearable and still be sure you don't run up a big bill, calling too much. If you think back and remember the past advice he's given you, and apply it the situation at hand, then you'll do fine. As a friend of someone who I constantly gave advice to, when I wasn't there every moment,she'd freak and get depressed. I told her one day, that I had other friends and a life besides just her,and that if she had been listening to all I had taught her about life, she would be using what she learned and not be so dependant on me. She stopped calling for a while, and I got concerned, so I called her. She had not only learned to apply what she had learned from me,and gained self confidence by telling herself she was a worthy person , She started volunteering for a hotline for troubled teens and was helping others with the advice I had given her. So ,don't think of him as gone, but as his wisdom still with you , to empower you whenever needed. Your situation will improve with time.
2006-10-02 09:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by mainah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take this as a challenge to grow strong emotionally & mentally . The feeling that he might not be there in person but is always there for you emotionally & u can reach out to him anytime will do wonders for you .
Meanwhile, keep your options ready so that you can occupy urself with something when ur friend is gone . It can be anything like taking dance classes . It will help you in keeping ur mind diverted + u will also get to meet new people. You will also have less time to worry abt home issues & who knows it might all stop hurting you .
2006-10-02 09:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not leaving you forever is he. I would think that he is just a phone call or an email away. Even if he is going overseas, there are a bunch of internet programs that allow you to talk to eachother for free, like yahoo, AIM, MSN, and skype. I don't think that you will be total out of contact.
I also think that this might be the chance you need to try and stand on your own two feet also and start trying to cope with all of this on your own. Hope everything turns out well for you.
2006-10-02 08:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by bmaldon04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's going to be ok.. And, if you live on your own. Why don't you try to move where he is going. Have yall ever talked about getting into a relationship?
2006-10-02 08:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a pal ask him out it will be the same but more!
2006-10-02 08:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get his number, you can still talk
2006-10-02 08:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by stick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋