I'm doing internship in a big international company and my boss will make decision to hire me or not.. I'm doing well and he's a fantastic boss who supports me all the time. He's also young and single. we hardly talk personal things but a while ago we went on a business trip and had a lot of fun together.. everyday we went out for nice dinner and had a lot of talks and laughs. he's not my type of guy but I was falling for him but never expressed it. Then i asked him what kind of girls he liked and the type he described was totally the opposite of me.. so i felt bad and guilty and told him that i had a bf (which is true..). he was a bit surprised but didn't seem to care...but suddenly he started talking about hot waitresses etc. i was disappointed with him and regretted my feeling. but I felt that we became great friends and he would offer me job for sure. after we came back, he suddenly became cold and indifferent to me and i'm afraid if it'll affect his decision to offere me a job..
2006-10-02 08:33:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
It sounds like he could have possible been feeling an attraction for you, then when you told him you had a bf, he thought that you were a little on the trashy side. Everyone knows what you think of as "your type" can change when you meet the right person. Why don't you just be an adult and ask him? That is what I would do. Make an appointment and just say, " Please tell me if I have done something to offend you or make you uncomfortable. I don't want anything to affect me getting this job."
2006-10-02 08:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boss became cold with you because he liked you. He is also trying to distance himself to be safe. It is pretty evident since you said he was surprised when you said you had a boyfriend. You have to be careful in these circumstances and although you enjoyed your time together..you have to withhold your feelings because he is in an authoritative position. Ethically, it is not a good idea for him to fraternize with any subordinates..much less hire an intern whom he might like on a personal level. I suggest..just get the most out of your internship and move on. It will be best for your psyche and your emotions..because if you do get hired...your feelings for him will affect your work. It is better to be hired elsewhere and then pursue him later if you really want. Also, if you do pursue him later..be sure to break up with your bf. I am sure your boss will give you a good reference once your internship is done if what you say is true and you are a good worker.
2006-10-02 09:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mav17 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that he had the hots for you. It explains why he suddenly changed his demeanor after you told him that you had a boyfriend.
It shouldn't affect your job status, although it might. Ask him a job related question and see what kind of reaction you get from him. Thank him for giving you an internship with the company and that you want to stay with the company and see what happens..
Good luck.
2006-10-02 08:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by duder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the current business climate and the "politically correct" emphasis from Human Resources, particularly where the possibility of "sexual harassment" could possibly raise it's ugly head, your boss is being one smart cookie.
Yes, you may well have blown it with this job. It's entirely possible that he had "impure thoughts" but was handling it well until you took the friendly conversations to a personal level. I suspect that his "exact opposite of you" was his way of keeping that distance. He is your supervisor, and as such cannot be involved with employees other than friendships or risk losing HIS job.
You've put him into an awfully awkward position, and I don't see any way of getting around that.
2006-10-02 08:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by sewmouse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its one thing to talk and have fun with a boss, but you got too personal. You treated it more like a date than a business trip. He probably realizes that now and is avoid you to let you know where the boundaries are.
Never mix business and pleasure that way. Keep it light keep it fun, become friends, but don't cross that line.
2006-10-02 08:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You took the conversation to a personal level and made him uncomfortable. Even after he answered your question with a response opposite of you, you still felt some need to tell him you had a boyfriend as if he had asked you to sleep with him. You told him how you were feeling whether you think you did and, yes, you probably impacted your future with the company.
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2016-11-25 22:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to clear the air... then tell him that despite your BF.. you would "do" him. Then go to a motel. Just before he takes the goods, tell him that "this is conditioned on me getting the job...ok ?" If he says OK.. follow through and you are hired.
If he "hits it" and then doesn't give you the job, talk to HR and get him fired.
2006-10-02 08:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋