With all the things that are happening in our schools lattly, it seems the "kid" never got discipline at home. It doesen't seem that they even know what is right and wrong any more. I got spanked when I was growing up. I also got molested when I was a small girl, I'm not a "bad Seed" I've never done any thing leagly wrong. I've always stayed out of truble. Why? I was more afraied of my dad then police!!! What the F*** is wrong with society when you CAN'T disapline your kids anymore?
2006-10-02 08:19:43 · 20 answers · asked by shoot.bang 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I would not be abuseing a child for spanking them I would ba pumishing them for what they did wrong. Anyone heard of the three spank rule?
2006-10-02 08:41:50 · update #1
If you do you will "hurt their feelings" which for good liberals, it is all about feeling good. Remember we can't fail them in school even if they can't read, it might hurt their self-esteem, so let's just pass them on to society, besides it won't hurt the ruling liberal elite if America is stupid, it only helps them.
What is wrong is liberalism, the insane religion of the socialists of the democrat party.
2006-10-05 04:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by rmagedon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, there is the misconception. You CAN and SHOULD discipline your kids. However, a lot of parents, not all, but a lot of them are under the misguided impression that spanking your child is abuse. This is NOT the case. If you don't believe me, call your local police department to verify what I say is accurate. As long as you spank the child on the buttocks and not on the back or legs below the buttocks, and as long as you do not leave a welp, go for it. They encourage you to spank your children. A lot of people really think they will get in trouble if they spank their kids, therefore, they think "time out" is a good alternative. Kids have also heard (from where, i'm not sure) that their parents can't spank them, so they actually will throw this up in their parents face. Sort of "I dare you to spank me, I'll call the police if you do). Well, thats when you bust their butts and dial the number and hand them the phone. You are well within your rights to punish your kids. THAT is whats wrong with kids today. I had my butt tore up growing up. I wasn't THAT bad, but still I screwed up and learned my lesson. I wasn't a teenage mom, I didn't do drugs, and I didn't drink and drive. I spanked my daughter until she hit about 15, thought it was a little too old for a spanking, but every once in a while she gets a good one upside the head (no marks)..LOL.
But seriously, discipline is the key. This time out crap and grouding all the time only punishes the dang parents. Bust their butts and make them FEEL IT!!!
2006-10-02 08:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've often wondered the same thing. Parents are afraid to discipline their children, for fear that CPS will be called on them, and they'll have their kids taken away.
I have a friend who lost her kids because she spanked her son (for "touching" his little sister in ways that kids should not touch each other), it gave him a bruise (he'd never been spanked before, ever!), her cousin saw it, and reported it.
My sister, who has NEVER abused her children was reported by her ex-husband because she threatened him for not paying child support.
Besides, there are all these people who try to say that it's "cruel" to spank children, and yet children who aren't disciplined wind up a lot worse than kids who AREN'T disciplined.
It's simply another example of the government meddling in places they don't belong.
This is a subject I'm very passionate about, obviously.
But perhaps the tide is turning. Some people are now joining activist groups that challenge various rulings that CPS put into play. It's about damn time...but I worry that maybe it's too late.
Get involved, protest against it, make your voice be heard!
Perhaps if more people do so, CPS will have no choice but to reevaluate their position.
2006-10-02 08:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throwing around words like "granola" and "liberal" are detrimental to this argument. This isn't a political issue, and it shouldn't be used as one.
My observations about the lack of structure and discipline, having gone through the school system in the late 80's - mid 90's has to do with both the parents AND the public schools.
Parents assume that the school system is instilling the ethics, morals and structure that the child will need to be a successful, contributing member of society. On the other hand, the school systems don't concretely address these issues with the belief that it is a parental issue.
This is a fundamental flaw in the system, and one that must soon be addressed. The United States, in all it's glory, cannot survive in it's current state if today's kids are growing up as total morons with no drive, ambition or direction.
The solution lies with the parents.
Schools exist to instill knowledge. Parents are responsible for the wisdom.
2006-10-02 08:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Joshua 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. You must be able to discipline your own kids. Society today has made it where spanking (such as a hand to the butt) is child abuse. The butt itself was made to be spanked - no bones - just a bunch of nerves and fat. It is not illegal to spank. I have also noticed other forms of discipline failing. There is a parent group out there trying to put an end to "time out" because they say it affects the child's social skills. Come on... Give it some time and I think people will come back to your way of thinking (they just need to see kids grow up without discipline, that should change their minds!)
2006-10-02 08:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can thank the psychiatrists, psychologists, and lazy people for saying that it's abuse to spank your child.
I do use time out as a punishment for my kids. I take time out of my life to spank their butts!! Call the police on me. I dare you!!! I have two great kids, and they are not abused. I know I've hugged them 100 times, no maybe a 1000 times more than I spanked them.
I was molested too when I was 5. It hurts, but now I can protect my children the way my parents didn't protect me.
2006-10-02 08:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by patience3987 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was spanked as a child by my mother, Im still slightly fearful of that ***** even though im 26.My father though never spanked me, just let me know what he expected to be done and I did it because I didnt want to dissapoint him.
So I behaved better for him then my mother.
With her I knew I acted out Id get a spanking and its over big deal.With my dad it was harder though.Shooo...kids need discipline.
2006-10-02 08:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by stephaniemariewalksonwater 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it is considered child abuse by society as a whole..I was spanked & I do not consider it was abuse just necessary to the situation..Like you,I turned out fine & never blamed my punishments on any behavior pattern..I wish we could get back to running our homes & families as we see fit & not have society rule that decision for us..Of course I am against blatant abuse of any kind to children,but when children are out of control someone has to be in control or they will runamuck in the household & likely into society as well..
This debate will live on for years to come..
2006-10-02 08:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by *toona* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Spare the rod, spoil the child".... Discipline comes from the heart, not from the belt. Communication and accepting your child's opinion will help you in the long run. I'm not saying let them run over you, but take value in what they say. Not always how they say it.
Beating a child is unacceptable, in that, we as Adults would never stand for someone to hit us. Why should it be any different for a child? We are ready to fight if someone lays their hands upon our children. It is no different for us as parents.What message are we teaching them?
We build self esteem in our children at an early age. Hitting and beating them defeats this.
Parenting classes may give you some other options!
2006-10-02 08:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by dreamdewberrys 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its because parents are scared of their kids. they are scared of them in the sence that if they disipline their kids then they will get charged with child abuse or child neglect. Or their kids will hate them or so on. Which I think is crap. We should be able to spank our kids and be able to disipline them, if we don't what will the world be like when they are in charge?
2006-10-02 08:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋