I know that was a mouthful. Ok make a long story short... my fiance has a twin brother who is married to a girl that I knew growing up. I couldnt stand her then and I cant stand her now. She is a compulsive liar and tries to start drama over everything! We have recently had some nasty arguements and she has said some very horrible things about me that werent true at all. My fiance and his brother are very close and I feel like if I cant deal with her Im going to lose him or come between him and his brother. I dont want to do that. I dont know what to do though. I love my fiance very very much and dont want to lose him but then I think wow Im gonna have to deal with this for the rest of my life! Help!
2006-10-02 08:12:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Devise a seem less plan to sabotage they're relationship. Leave some receipts in her name from a Motel 6 lying around her house. Spray some men's cologne on some of her things when she is not paying attention. Write her a love letter talking about how good last night was but make sure it was when they were apart, and it's sloppy handwriting like a boy's.
Oh, and there's always a hired hit. Break lines accidentally snipped, etc..
;-)
2006-10-02 08:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by boogatt66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You choose how you deal with it. You can decide to have the perspective that she is just an immature trouble making biatch that you aren't going to allow upset you over her silly drama, or you can let yourself fall victim to it and get upset, and you will be hurting yourself more than anyone else. You can't change her, she's obviously not leaving anytime soon and you want to stay with your fiance, so YOU have to make your own adjustments so that you can accept things. Stay away from her and don't consider the things she says or does to offend you for even a moment.
2006-10-02 08:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize. You do have the between the rock and the hard place going. It is hard to say how to fix this...but try looking at it from a distance. You are the mature one who is trying to prevent problems. She can not help the counterproductive or destructive way that she manages her life.
Best to be the best fiance that you can. Eventually, others (even men) will wise up and get tired of her personality. Be positive, pleasant and redirect conversations/situations away from the her. Excuse yourself from having to spend time with her. Let your fiance and his brother spend time together as much as they need too, but explain to your fiance that the wife is not the kind of woman that you can spend time with excessively. That perhaps she drains you and you want to be at your best for him and your life together. Surely, he won't expect you to put up with crap.
Be careful to not mention the brother, put blame on him, or end up avoiding him. Just find ways to have her not around. Lets say for example, the guys love football and she hates it. Go to the games/watch them with the guys. Do things that she hates. You will get the better end of the stick.
It is unfortunate that she is so unpleasant. But there are lots of unlikeable people around. You just got stuck with one as a relative. Frankly, I have several annoying relatives. You don't see me spending lots of time with them. But I love the rest.
Commend yourself for an excellent attitude and seeking to prevent problems. The answers will come to you the more you look.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 08:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him immediately how u feel and exactly what u want to do as desribed above. then you ask him how he thinks will work the situation out. he is also just as responsible you, you know, even though u are noble in trying to be the nice person here.
try out some one day outing, and slowly, at the very least, you will be at peace with one another, if not friends.
otherwise, tell ur fiance, that she used to be a man before....lol
2006-10-02 08:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices:
1. You be very polite and gracious and refuse to fight with her. You stop arguing, remain pleasant and limit your time with her. You are calm, friendly, and do not lower yourself to her level. You are confident and strong and are able to rise above it.
2. If you can't do that, you break up.
2006-10-02 08:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your fiance about it. Tell him your history with this girl and ask him if he will support you if she keeps doing this. If you don't have his support there's no use in going any further.
2006-10-02 08:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the bigger person and don't get caught up in any drama.
You all are family now and ADULTS, so leave the past in the past.
2006-10-02 08:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can be with his brothe but you don't have to be with her
when invited to your home discuss the weather and subject matter thatconcern no one in particular like movies
don't let her brake you & your fiance
2006-10-02 08:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋