2006-10-02 08:10:27 · 32 answers · asked by Cowgirl Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was once in a relationship 8 years. He led me on and I was naive enough to go along. I finally realized that he was happy just the way it was, did not want to go any further and that was the end of it. I left him. It was the hardest thing I ever did, it took me a year to get over him.
Now, five years later, I'm with a guy who wants the same things I do out of life and have the greatest relationship you could imagine. We are planning on getting married and are much more compatible in life than I ever was with the other guy. I just couldn't see it at the time because I was so blinded by my love for him.
Good luck, I know this must be difficult.
2006-10-02 08:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is going to change until YOU make it happen. He's obviously content. Time to shake things up. I would not stay in a relationship past TWO years if it didn't progress in certain ways at least 3 times in the two years...and then I think it's time to start asking "what are you thinking, where is this going?"
I watched "Breaking Up With Shannen Dougherty" last week and she had a girl on that had been with the "perfect" guy for 5 years, but he wasn't moving forward so she had Shannen tell him, propose now, or get the hell out. They are now engaged.
2006-10-02 08:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes or No first of all, alot of people want to make sure if they get married they will be happy for the rest of thier lives because they dont want to get married any more than once. On the other hand he could just be the type to not want a marriage, and doesn't want to commit. He may just be waiting until he finds someone else too, and using you as a crutch. If I was in your position personally I would tell him we can be friends but you want a serious relationship not one that just stays frozen forever. Tell him if he doesn't take your relationship seriously you can't see you being happy. Tell him you want him, but also want a better life, as his wife. If he reacts all crazy don't worry he is just scared of commitment and may realize soon he wants you that much, or if he says fine, bye then he was using you for a crutch the whole time. If he says wait a while longer he probably wants to make sure your the one. Some guys take alot longer to make serious decisions. Good luck with what you do, and remember there is always someone that would be happy to be with you.
2006-10-02 08:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think seven years without progress is too long to stay with anything!
"Waiting" for changes isn't working for you. Move on before you waste any more of your life.
2006-10-02 08:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No, Yes if you want more of a committed relationship and no if you just want a stay as it is relationship. I think you problem want more, so honey you need to move on. You know the old saying way pay for the cow milk when you can get the whole cow free. MOVE ON there nothing there for you.
2006-10-02 08:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it hasn't moved on in 7 years, unless something drastic happens I cant see it moving on now can you? I keep seeing the number 7 come up so many times on this board I am starting to believe in the theory of the 7 year itch. Only you know if you can make changes needed to boost this relationship, but I think you know in your heart of hearts it is time to move on. try one last time talking to your partner and explaining if things don't change you are outta there.
2006-10-02 08:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends in the relationship if he treats you good and vice versa. I was in a relationship for 7 years also and we have 3 children. He only asked me b/c people kept forcing the issue. It wasn't right and we didn't get along so I broke it off. Maybe he thinks you don't want to get married. Have you ever talked to him about it? Do what your heart really tells you. I'm sure you'll make the right choice.I'm sure he'll be willing to listen if he really cares and you have a good relationship.
2006-10-02 08:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kim; walk away now that you are thinking about it, you do not talk about love, you are talking about a relationship that not have an entry either an exit, so bye bye relationship, and find something new, some one who will love you and make plan for a future...7 years is too many without hope
2006-10-02 08:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by shiningsun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, seven years in a stalemate relationship is way too long to endure. Move on.
2006-10-02 08:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move on. Seriously.
You've already waited 7 years for a change and it hasn't happened yet. What makes you think waiting any longer will provide any different results?
2006-10-02 08:11:54 · answer #10 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋