I got this friend I know is gay, but she tries hard to throw me off that she is not .How can I talk to her and let her know I am cool with it without her blowing her top. (I am STRAIGHT)
2006-10-02 08:06:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's still not okay with "coming out". Leave her alone! When she is ready, then just be supportive and encouraging.
2006-10-02 08:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave it alone until she comes to you and tells you herself. She may not be gay she may just be curious about being with another woman. If you are a real friend then don't pressure her to come out. When she thinks the time is right to tell you i'm sure she will. You just need to be there for emotional support.
Good Luck!
2006-10-02 15:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your job to make your friend comfortable and outing her is not how to do that. When she feels comfortable letting you know she will tell you. Until then you have to wonder if maybe she isn't hiding it from you but maybe she has to come to terms with it herself. Don't force her out of the closet, let her open the door herself.
2006-10-02 15:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might really not be a lesbian, but just in case, try talking to her about how it's ridiculous that people are saying that gay people should not be able to get married or adopt kids. Then go into how you don't have any problems with gay people.
2006-10-02 15:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force it out of her, she's clearly not ready, so just leave it alone! All you can/should do is try to make her feel comfortable, don't make jokes about homosexuals or about homosexual stereotypes. There's more to your friend than her sexual orientation, so focus on that instead. But good for you, for wanting to be supportive!
2006-10-02 15:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think if she was comfortable with it she would tell you. Maybe she is waiting for the right time and maybe afraid of losing your friendship. If you are a true friend you will wait until she is ready and not put her on the spot. She will eventually tell you.
2006-10-02 15:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by deborah_012003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are curious!!!Am i right? if she does not say that to you let her alone, when she feel that she can trust you then she will be out of the closet, at the moment it is not your business..SORRY but it is the true, but if you feel in need to know about her sexuality then open yourself to her and tell her that you are not afraid to try..........
2006-10-02 15:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by shiningsun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, next time there is a comment about homosexuals in the presence of your friend, you can make casual comments about how you feel about it. This could open your friend up to "come clean" to you.
If she doesn't, let her be.
2006-10-02 15:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her be, she will tell you when she's ready. But if gay/lesbian people come up in conversation then just maybe make comment that you aint against it.
2006-10-02 15:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT.......just let her "come out" on her own....because it might be something that she is not "comfortable" with yet, or she maybe just "experimenting"...... just forget that you "know", and like you already said your cool with it, so just save face:)
2006-10-02 15:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋