I think i would go ahead and marry her without his blessing.
2006-10-02 07:29:19 · 24 answers · asked by videogamer1979 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would marry her, then sleep with her sister just to show her dad that no one messes with me.
2006-10-02 07:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find out how your intended feels about it. Maybe his blessing is important to her.
If seeking his blessing is important, impress other members of the family - like your future mother-in-law. However, if you've got to put on an act to impress, you'll only make things worse.
Is he being unreasonable in saying no? Or are there real concerns based on maturity (which is not the same as age), responsibility, distance, bad history or family politics, then you need to work with the Dad to resolve his concerns.
2006-10-02 14:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by warped_factor_ten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I think you and your girlfriend need to sit down and talk about how you would handle it if you went ahead and did get married. Do you know why he said no? Is it something that can be corrected to make him change his idea or view of you? I am not saying you need to kiss her daddy's butt, but it is her daddy and when you marry her, you marry her family, for better or worse. You could end up putting her in an awkward position and I think it only fair that she be able to speak her mind on the front end about if she wants to do this or not.
2006-10-02 14:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you bothered to ask most of them would say no, I know that my Father doesn't think anyone is good enough for me. It would be nice if a Father in Law approved of you enough to say yes. My husband didn't ask, he can't stand my family. So yes he married me without a blessing.
2006-10-02 14:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked the father for his blessing and he said no... if you want to have a relationship with him as a father-in-law then you should respect his answer.
You should have never asked him, if you didn't want to respect his answer. If your girl is going to want her father to walk her down the aisle, you've got your work cut out for you. You've got to find out what it would take to change his mind... he may just feel you're taking his baby-girl and that's just a matter of time for him to come to grips with reality.
If you elope or marry her without including him; he's never going to forgive you.
2006-10-02 14:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her dad loves her and wants good things for her then I would not marry without his support. If you did you would be dooming your spouse to a life of hell-- being trapped between you and the original family members. I would not want to do that to someone I LOVED!
I would win the hearts of the entire family or I would not marry into it. If they love her and want good for her and you do too then this should not be too hard to do.
There are exceptions to every rule, but I would think not many to this one. IF you are both of legal age to marry:
but it becomes obvious to both of you that he doesn't love her and want good for her then I would consult her and perhaps marry against his wishes.
If he refuses to give the reason behind his decision I would consider that mistreatment and would consult her and perhaps marry against his wishes.
In short, if her dad is unreasonable or refuses to communicate then I would consider it. But bear in mind that it is very difficult to make a marriage work when you have all the support anyone could ever expect or ask for and going into a marriage with less than the ideal support is even more difficult.
2006-10-02 14:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by DidoDeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's willing to marry you without her father's blessing, and you love her, then go ahead and marry her. Ultimately you want her to be happy and having her father's blessing would be great. But she has to live her own life; her father has lived his life. Even if you are bum who can't provide for his little girl (and then I wouldn't blame him) it's still her life. Hopefully you can provide for her and maybe with time her dad will come around.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 14:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never - gain his trust he may just want you to prove you are worthy of his Princess what would you do if was your daughter. In my experience I have learned a Father-in-law on your side is a strategic move for survival you always have a Allie against the evil queen "The-Mother-in Law"
2006-10-02 14:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few universal truths here,
A parent cannot pick their children's spouse.
To get a child devoted to a suitor say you don't like them.
Its nice to get along with the rents but its not required.
She picked you he didn't.
Asking for his permission is an homage to the past but has not binding.
Parents do not always know what's best.
Go for it, Good Luck.
2006-10-02 14:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Elope, if he is against the wedding her family may not attend and that would crush her. Just go to Vegas baby! Wish I could do something that easy. One of the chapels has it set that family members can watch online even.
2006-10-02 14:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I would probably want the same thing. The only thing that will help is time and you'll have plenty of that if you marry his daughter.
2006-10-02 14:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋