whats the best part about not fitting in?

Question

i dont fit in with any crowd. too open minded for the ghetto, too ghetto for the 'burbs, too rocker for the hiphoppers, too hiphop for the rockers, too negative for the goths and too stupid for the afropunks. lol i guess i am my crowd. do any of you stick out like a sore thumb? does the loneliness get to you? i think the best part about being me is the fact i dont follow jus one main style, like most people pick one thing and stick to it. i like being all over the place

hey kvh, i hate r&b and love the killers lol

Answer 1

stop thinking ur unique. there are a million other people just like you. they probably even have the same name. if u died, only a couple people would miss you, and not for that long anyway.

Answer 2

I was just like you growing up. I didn't fit in anywhere. I was a black kid, in a black neighborhood- into everything else but 'black' stuff. The difference is that I sang the "poor me" song instead of finding my individuality. I've learned the importance of finding myself, as an adult. This is a lesson learned best as a child. It's during your teen years that you really get to enjoy life. Most of my childhood was spent in lonliness, so I was visibly sad all the time. One thing I'll tell you, all those girls that I used to feel outcasted from, are now over weight or in less than good health, and either have a bunch of kids or too many men problems to name. If I'd been with them, I may have been one of them.

The best thing about doing your own thing is that you take responsibility for your own actions. You can't get in trouble for someone else's actions because you wasn't a part of the crowd. You don't even have to worry about saying no to drugs because there's nobody to tempt you with it. Your peer can't talk you into robbing a bank, painting your name on a building, having sex.. you escape all of that when you don't have the pressure of a crowd around. Anything you do, anything you get into, it's because you wanted to.. so you reap the benefits or suffer the consequences alone.

You're probably more open minded than your peers. People that have a variety of interests usually are. Your conversation will be more interesting. You can probably pick up girls better because there is no one around to pressure to make a move too fast and say the wrong thing. But they'll be the first to laugh if you're rejected.

Answer 3

I've never been like everyone else and I love it. It's called being an individual. I never get lonely, because I actually like being alone, but I have a daughter though and she kinda takes after me, so she's my little buddy and we get along great. Well for now anyway, she's only 2, LOL. But I guess I'm all over the place too, because I don't have one mindest most of the time, but it helps because i'm always open to new and interesting things and ideas.

Answer 4

Who wants to be a clone anyway? If you are interested in a wide variety of things, thats cool and the friends you make will be more real and sincere than if you just fit in with the crowd. I am sorry if the loneliness gets to you, but you might be surprised at how many other people feel that they don't fit in, it sounds like you are a strong enough person to not change just to please the crowd. Way to go!

Answer 5

The best thing about not fitting in is you can mix with who you
want, and don't have to belong to a clique. You have your
individuality, and can form your own opinions, without being
unduly influenced by one segment of the population. You have the best of everything, since you will be universally accepted (or
rejected) by all groups, since you have no prejudged conceptions of the various groups out there. The best thing you can say is you
are influenced by you, and not what others say or think. Most
people probably can't say that, because they are influenced by
the media/parents/religion/friends/etcetera.

Answer 6

But I bet that you can relate, on some level or another, to each and every group that you mentioned! We all bleed red. Walking to the beat of your own drum is fine. Your a drifter. That's cool! At least you don't try to conform, just to fit it! Just one question for ya, how can you be to negative for the goths????

Answer 7

Celebrate Your Individuality!
People Who Don't Love and Respect You for Who You Are-Their Loss NOT Yours!
Welcome to the gathering!

Answer 8

No one can hold you to any rules and they expect the unexpected from you. I find other ways to entertain myself when I am feeling lonely- hey I created 5 more just like me, so I guess I have my own crowd now! lol

Answer 9

Flexibility

Answer 10

Are you kidding? I never feel like I fit in. I'm not white enough to fit in with white people who like to dance to techno and listen to Dave Matthews band and the Killers (Bleh!). I love R&B and listen to 102.3 kjlh in L.A. but I'm actually white. I'm not girly enough to fit in with most women - I don't yearn to talk about prada purses, or hug my friends everytime I see them, or get my nails done, or act based purely on emotion. I don't want a man to support me, I don't think getting married is something to celebrate more than getting an education, and I don't like taking advantage of the fact that men are blinded by breasts and will do you favors if you have them. Yet I don't fit in with men, because most of them EXPECT women to be what I've just described above, and refuse to believe that I am not like that. I can do 10 pull ups, and 13 dips, which is more than most men or women my age (28). I don't like to get drunk and party every weekend. I like to watch music videos on BET while my boyfriend who is half black prefers VH1 and music by John Mayer etc. But I like it. I'm me, and I don't want to fit in with any stupid stereotypes of women or white people.

And I like that my boyfriend doesn't fit in either. He's a funny guy.

Answer 11

The best thing about not fitting in is that you belong to the largest group of people possible: the outcasts. Go to New York...you'll be happy there.