I was a plus size woman when my husband married me I am really a pretty woman I get complemented on all the time but it seems as though he don't find me attractive any moore what can I do besides lose weight to get his attention?
2006-10-02 06:39:32 · 27 answers · asked by lala_chic2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a plus size woman too and I know how you feel....I have been with my hubby for 9 years this Dec.... Been married for 3 years and I have asked myself that same thing for the longest time.... Sweetie all I can tell you is that.... You need to stay strong and keep the romanic alive..... Do little things like write him love notes and have romantic nights that keep him wanting more....That is what I did and we are very happy and I don't think that he doesn't find me unattractive anymore.... Keep the faith in his love and you will not go wrong....
2006-10-02 06:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by moonangel1121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya, honey. I was and am a BBW. My husband married me loving me just the way I was. I was the person who had an image problema nd because I was always being self critical and putting myself down, my husband got irritated with me.
I had to be happy with myself and see myself as beautiful no matter what size I was.
A lag in our sex life, that I thought was because of my wieght, ended up having nothing to do with me at all. Every marriage has peaks and vallies, and there's nothing you can do about that. Just be sure to speak great things about yourself, keep your confidance up, and always talk openly with your spouse.
Great communication will draw you closer no matter what's going on.
If you do want to feel sexier, then start with a low key toning excersize program, buy some P.S. Lingerie, and take time to pamper yourself. Doing that will make you feel better and thus make you exude a brighter inner light!
2006-10-02 13:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is something else going on besides him not being attracted to you. If you were plus sized when you married him, I would find it hard to believe that all of a sudden he is no longer attracted to you. I would ask him straight-out what is going on otherwise you are going to drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what you did or can do to make it better.
2006-10-02 13:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by bri63ike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he accepted you as a large woman before, he accepts you now. A lot of people lose the romance after marriage. You just need to talk to him and find ways to keep it intresting. Try going into an adult toy store together and looking around, maybe finding something you're both intrested in.
2006-10-02 13:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by beweird22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just grown so accustomed to you that he takes you for granted. This happens to a lot of married couples, no matter what size they are. Sometimes a nice romantic get-away -- just a long weekend-- can spark things up again. If your weight bothers YOU, though, you should see a doctor about a sensible plan to lose some of it. If you're happier with yourself, your husband will be happier with you.
2006-10-02 13:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My goodness,i would take you in a minute-if he is not happy with you on the outside,then contact me,i would love the whole kitNcaboodle-inside and outside!!Seriously-YOU lose weight for YOU,not anyone else-if he has problems with your weight/your personality/the sexiness in your marriage,then its down to him,not you.Tell him to shape up and ship out is what i say-if all else fails,you can do better...you already get complimented on all the time,so you know it can be done.Best of luck to you lady:-)
2006-10-02 14:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enter the room with a strap on on and say ok baby im taking charge of this ship to set for sea. If that doesnt get his attention, nothing will.
2006-10-02 13:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being nice to him. Trying being loving and kind and warm and giving. Try being happy to see him. Cook him nice meals. Don't nag, complain or be critical. Make your home a place he wants to come home to and be the type of woman a man wants to see after a hard day at work. Rub his back. Hug him. Admire, repect, and appreciate him. Just be a nice wife. Then consider getting healthy so you'll live longer.
2006-10-02 13:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy with the way you look then your husband should accept that. He should love you for who you are not how you look. You need to talk to him and find out if he truly isn't attracted to you or if there is something else bothering him.
2006-10-02 13:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by OrianasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He married a plus size woman...it is not your size that is his problem....He just knows how to catch a woman...to keep one
is difficult for him. He does not perhaps understand your needs.
Sorry to say, he may never ...but if he is still with you and is kind,
thank God for that anyway!
2006-10-02 13:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋