Today me and some friends are getting together to go to the movies, and my other friend wants to come to. But all the other people in my group dont want her to come, and to be honest, I dont think she would fit that well with my other friends. But she keeps asking things like, were are we meeting up, or what time? what do I do/tell her?
2006-10-02 06:26:23 · 18 answers · asked by furyfluf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be honest with her and tell her. Then tell your friends to back off and accept her or lose you as a friend. Your going to either lose the "lost girl" as your friend and you'll regret it later or maybe the group of friends will later decide they don't want you around and then where will you be? Invite your friend to come along and if the others don't like it-go hang out with the other girl somewhere else and be the bigger person and show th at you don't care what they think. Otherwise you don't derserve the other girl as a friend- honestly
2006-10-02 06:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Some Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie.
Deflect the question if you don't want to answer it directly. You can say, "Are you sure you want to come?" She'll say yes. But now shes gotten a little hint that everything is not OK. When she asks again after that tell her to ask one of your other friends.
Also, maybe you should think long and hard about why you don't want her to come. If she does come, she might then realize, on her own, that she doesn';t fit in.....Problem solved!
Remember: You're not responsible for seeing that she has a good time, she is. Also, it's just the movies, not a dinner for the president. What's the worst thing that will happen if she goes? Won't there be other times you go to the movies with your friends and she won't be around?
2006-10-02 13:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by healil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all lie sometime another so knowing where to draw the line its a tough one. You have to ask yourself if you really know her well enough as it could be a mistake to lie to her as you might miss out on a genuine friend. Just because your friends dont like her does mean you dont have too. It sounds as if she's lonely and doesnt mix well and maybe really keen for a good freind. It would be a funny and peaceful world if we all get on but that just doesnt happen. Maybe it would be a good idea if you just went out with her yourself and see how it goes. It is obivously playing on your mind and best tell her sooner rather than later. Best of Luck!
2006-10-02 13:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Darren G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are going out with a bunch of friends that she would not be comfortable with...or who would not be comfortable with her. Remember one thing for all time...you do not build a relationship...any relationship...on lies. Sooner or later a lie gets caught and then, the other person can never trust you. And what is a relationship without trust????? There is only one exception to this, according to my personal experience. I would lie only if I know that it would benefit the person I'm lying to. Ask me about that one separately!!
2006-10-02 13:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by the_sunil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if she is really your friend you will tell her the truth, see the one thing about this is you are limited to just one person as far as being friends, and its ok for her not to fit in. just tell her like this " look its nothing personal but i am hanging with them and they really don't want you to come but i tell you what as soon as i am done i will call you and the only reason why am telling you this cause i don't want you to get around them and you feel uncomfortable" if that doesn't work then she is not being fair
2006-10-02 13:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by msmridley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you were a true friend you wouldn't go hang out with the other group if that's the way they feel about your friend. you are going to end up hurting her feelings badly. what a shame it will be, if your group of friends suddenly decide they don't won't you hanging around for what ever the reason might be. Then you will have no friends because you got rid of the one true friend that you had. think twice before you before you hurt her.
2006-10-02 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by THOM K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never ok to lie to a friend. A true friend can always be told the truth. Just do it in a loving way. Then offer to do something with her soon.
2006-10-02 13:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lie, you may be found out. Tactfully try to explain to the friend that they do not fit in with this crowd and arrange to meet up with this friend at another time.
2006-10-02 13:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not all right to lie
When you lie you are left with only two choices,,,, own up to it, or tell another lie
tell your friend the truth, and then there will not be a need to lie
2006-10-02 13:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by tom l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you'll do something or go somewhere with her next weekend... Don't lie to her just leave out the truth.
2006-10-02 13:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nae-Nae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋