I do things to my fiance to turn him on, But he does not do it back. Like kisses on the back, licking up and down your neck and stomach. Just things that people expect. He doesnt do it back. I mean he uses his tongue else where but not in things I do to him. I want him to do it back. Can you explain to me how to tell him by not asking him? And he doesn't like his man hood to be sucked, that's the first. I have tried to but he doesnt seem to be interested, What to do?
2006-10-02 06:06:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He says that he has never liked for his man hood to be sucked
2006-10-02 06:31:12 · update #1
I have been with him for almost three years
2006-10-02 06:32:20 · update #2
You have to tell him - but be careful the way you tell him.
Remember, us guys are sensitive and get insulted if we "aren't doing it the right way"
Tell him "You want to be teased. Tell him to lick you all over, and no matter what you do - don't stop turning you on."
When he licks in "the right spots" make more noise. Wear something sexy when you tell him this.
...and the BJ thing. He may have a hangup from a prior girlfriend. Tell him it is such a turn on for you.
2006-10-02 06:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by thalecky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is odd.
Are you sure he's the right one for you? Might he actually be a closet homosexual? I'm serious. Gay men sometimes do marry women and live in denial about their sexuality.
Maybe there is some kink that he is into but he feels he can't tell you about it. Maybe normal sex just doesn't get him off.
He may be one of those guys who's been brought up to think sex is dirty. If so he might be into submission or domination because these people have a problem with combining the "purity" of love and the "unclean" act of sex in the same experience. You could surprise him one evening by tieing yourself to the bed before he comes through the door and guaging his reaction. It might reveal some passion for you in him. Or maybe you could try tieing him to the bed so that he can keep sex and love seperate in his mind because he is in a helpless situation and not free to choose "decent" behaviour!!
I am merely speculating of course.
2006-10-02 13:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your fiance has issues with oral sex. Does he satisfy you orally? If so, then it may just be that he has an issue with you taking his "manhood" in your mouth for hygienic reasons. I know that some people will not kiss after oral sex for similar reasons.
As for getting him to do to you what you do to him, we all have our likes in bed, and different things turn each of us on. I don't see a problem with just telling him what turns you on. Don't ask why he does not do it, but just say that you would enjoy it if he were to do specific things.
Talking about what you like about sex with your fiance is normal, and you should not feel uncomfortable talking with him about your likes and dislikes. Also, it may be something that you can make into a fun conversation.
Give it a try.
2006-10-02 13:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classy, one important aspect missing in your question is: for how long have you been with him? If your answer is NOT QUITE LONG, then, I'll suggest that you need to bear with him while encouraging him to play along with you with regard to oral sex. I have this strong feeling that his background (religious, family or cultural) may be having a serious impact on him. You are the best person to shelve all these negative impacts off from him. Kindly do that patiently with understanding and you'll soon discover the best of this guy. I can assure you. Cheers!
2006-10-02 13:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two plan to spend the rest of your lives together, you'll have to have similar sexual tastes. If he is not into oral sensuality and stimulation, you have to challenge him to try. BE SPECIFIC and be creative, you may find you have to seriously entice him into doing want you want and what you want to do. If it still doesnt work, then perhaps you are not sexualy compatable.
If you two indeed marry, how miserable would you both be if neither could satisfy the other? All the reason you need to addrees this quickly.
2006-10-02 13:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said "guys only"...but I thought I'd try to help you out a little. This was going on for a while between my ex and I. I stopped doing all that "good" stuff and just pretty much did the basic "act". After a while he wanted me to start doing the "good" stuff again so he knew it intensified it for me, so he started to do more of the 4play, and I got my way... Good luck! I hate when guys are lazy and don't put all the effort they should put into it.
2006-10-02 13:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Adri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk.
He might not know how, teach him.
He might not enjoy doing that to you, find another person that has the same needs as yourself.
He might not like oral, if you want to perform, you need to find a person that meets your desires.
Sound like you two do not match, that is what the dating time is about to find out about each other. There might be other things that you DON"T have in common so you really need to learn these things now, or move on.
2006-10-02 13:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a guy only thing! Honestly I cant stand how people try and aviod asking questions with someone there flucking!!! For real your obviously lacking and hes not pleasing you right! Tell him what you want and what your needs are, only then will you get what you want... As far as him not liking it when you suck em off, not every guy does, or you just dont know how to do it to his standerds... Ask him what he likes then hopefully if he has brains he will ask you what you like...
2006-10-02 13:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to talk about it. If you can't talk about it openly and honestly, then you are not ready for the responsibility of sex with each other, seriously! Your needs not being met just won't dissapear in time and with marraige, it leads to distrust, resentment, and infidelity. Seriously, and any other couples reading this, TALK, you have to TALK about things. The foundation of a good relationship is communication!
2006-10-02 13:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by RamsGod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch some porn together and ask him to tell you which of the things he likes.
play a game with him. first he asks you do something to him then you ask him to do something to you. make a game of it by each writing things on idfferent peices of paper. mix them up pick one out, roll the dice and that is what you have to do for how many minutes times 2 on the dice.
there are games like that at spencers you can buy...
2006-10-02 13:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋