I mean, is there any woman now pregnant and guy who make you pregnant leave you alone, not want to be with you and the baby, denied that it's not his baby, or trying to avoid taking responsiblity for the baby, include the case that your guy dead too.
2006-10-02 05:47:03 · 15 answers · asked by SERENE 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
*Anyone who has the idea of give up baby for adobtion, please don't answer my question.
2006-10-02 07:03:54 · update #1
please if you are not pregnant and be left alone or your were not, want to blame, tell off or express your cruel mind don't answer my question,
2006-10-02 07:06:18 · update #2
im sorry to read about this for you. i went through the same thing 7 years ago with my ex. we tried for the baby for 18 months and all be it we were young when we got married (17-20 having the baby) but he left me too. My son was born with a genetic disorder and believe me its a lonely place to be. Fortunately ive got a great family who gave me support and love from the get go. The SOB pushed for a DNA test as to prolong having to pay any maintenance. but the position i am in today proves that its not that hard having to go it alone if you got the right support. i am now with a fantastic man and we plan to marry soon- we've got another son and one on the way making us a family of 5, well plus the dog makes 6!!! i know its hard at the moment but if your partner left you maybe like for me its a blessing in disquise. i wouldn't be with the man im with today and quite frankly id go through it all again cos these things happen for a reason. Dont fall under the illusion that theres no one out there for you or that you wont cope on your own because down the line you can look at your child and raise them as a person with better morals etc than the person that run out on you. they will be a credit to you. take things a day at a time. motherhood isnt easy but you can make it. If you are thinking that no one will want you as a single mother (or someone else will turn away) think again. its their loss. Theres a little thing called karma what goes around comes around, in the future he may want to know but then it will be too late. let them deal with it then.
Good luck hun, its a long road on your own but the rewards reaped in the long run from them and the better people you meet will out weigh this pain ten fold.
Keep smiling :-)
2006-10-07 09:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by tigalilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to answer this one because it's so common, I'm not pregnant but when I was carrying my first child my partner & I split up. We were on & off & I got pregnant again with twins, we split up again (see the pattern here?), & stayed civil. We got back together & are still together but the point I wanted to make was that I never thought I'd be able to cope but I did. We split up for quite a while at one point & if nothing else it proved to me that if needs be I can do it on my own. He's away at the moment & again I'm on my own but he'll be back soon enough so it's not the same i know.
You will surprise yourself, with the help of family & friends you can get through it. This guy clearly did you a favour, he couldn't handle the responsibility so did one, at least now you know!
Good luck! x
2006-10-02 07:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was left with three small children, girls aged 4 and 6 years and son aged 11 months, but he couldn't deny the kids were his because we were married.
It sounds like you are having a rough time of it, don't let others mistakes ruin your chance of motherhood, it is better to have one loving parent than two parents wrapped up in arguing with each other.
I had to rely on the state to help me until my son was three then I went to college and got a job to support my children, as well as this I found a new and loving partner who supports me and my three children, it isn't all bad and look at it who is missing out only that man that gave your baby life, he is not worthy enough to be called a father.
2006-10-07 23:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in some serious denial...I went through the same thing with my 8 yr old. He wanted me to have an abortion, and when I wouldn't he threatened to commit suicide...You just have to keep on pushing. Women are miracle workers, we do it all, with or without them. There is nothing like the love of and for your child so do not let him spoil it for you. I met a great guy when I was 5 months along and we married shortly after.
He will take responsibility in 9 months when he is paying support...be strong for yourself and your baby. You CAN!
2006-10-02 05:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex left me when my baby was 2 weeks old- I had a C-section and had 2 other children during school holidays
I haven't had a penny from him and I now won't let him see her as he has my phone number and didn't bother
I tried to establish contact via his friend I was told leave him alone cos I'm a fruitcake yeh right !!!
My ex was violent that's why I left him
He once chased someone with a machete
He was hitting my kids and kept leaving and coming back
Til I got strong and left
I'm having the last laugh cos my baby took her 1st steps today.
2006-10-06 06:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi ya that is exactly what happened to me told him i was pregnant didnt want to know carried for nine months and he never came near or by and thats how it still is and my boy is now 12....we can walk past him in the street and he does not acknowledge either of us.it breaks my heart but its his loss cos my son has turned out very well which i am very pleased about after all i did it on my own....i have a six week old baby now and the dad seems to be going in that direction aswell but i coped with my eldest and i sure will again
2006-10-02 06:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by lis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I am eight months pregnant and the father of my child does not want anything to do with me or my baby because I chose not to be with him in a relationship. He was the one who wanted a baby and now it's whatever. He's a deadbeat. Now he wants to deny the baby but it's cool because he will get his!!!!
2006-10-02 06:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by lil momma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am single and expecting twins. I have realized ,wether or not he decides down the road to be a part of thier lives, someone has to do it in the mean time. No one else has to walk your path, if this is the one you feel is right then take it. Don't worry about him, if it was meant to be it will be. Until then take this as an oppertunity to better yourself.
2006-10-02 06:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by jenn m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am only waiting for results from docs but that scared my fella enough to run off. i am pretty sure i am but he wants no responsibility for baby either. i think it must be hard for men to try and learn how to grow up quick enough to be a parent thats why they run away. I think you should wait awhile for your guy to come round to the idea like i have to. dont worry too much think about staying healthy for the baby. take care + good luck
2006-10-06 11:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by haha_islaughing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have to through my hands up im a lone parent and loving it i have got so much love from my kids and vice versa i think you have a closer relathion ship with them and brings yous a bit closer and now i have no man telling me how to do things i am so much more independant now and i would,nt have it any other way i know its hard but it is worth it . from a single mum of 3 good luck love
2006-10-02 06:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by patricia s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋