I am happily married and have been for 5 years now. We have been together for 10. We have been together since I was very young and I guess I just dont feel like I have had much experience in the dating life. Don't get me wrong we do have our issues as do all relationships but recently I have met a guy who I do have feelings for the problem is that he lives many miles away. I talk to him almost everynight on the computer and sometimes on the phone during the day. Is this wrong? Would you consider this cheating, we havent done anything although we do have phone sex at times. I love my husband yes, but is some of these feelings that I have because I have never had the opportunity of having two men love me? My husband and I both have our flaws but sometimes I do feel like I am not happy. Our communication skills have majorly broken down. I feel like I can tell this other guy anything and he will be open and honest with me. My sex life with my husband is getting so boring. Help
2006-10-02 05:44:44 · 4 answers · asked by baby j 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes you are cheating. Anything you do (that is sexually gratifying) that you hide from your spouse is cheating.
If you have been together 10 years you should try to talk to your husband. ten years is too long to just walk away from. If it was an abusive relationship then yes, by all means walk away.
You have become infatuated with the attention that this on line guy is giving you. Don't confuse it with love. You are both getting gratification from each other not love. Sure you can tell him anything, he doesn't have to live with you or deal with you except via the phone or computer. Hes the perfect guy because he is faceless, has no ties to you and has not invested 10 years nor is he responsible for your health and well being.
instead of spending so much time nurturing a relationship the exists via the computer and telephone you might try expending the same amount of energy trying to repair the communication breakdown you say has happened with your husband.
If sex has become stale and routine, mix it up. Search the Internet for suggestions on how to spice things up, have a get way with your husband.
Dating 1 or 20 guys doesn't matter... you are looking for an excuse to get out and play. You are not in high school anymore, this is life, with all its pitfalls. It is up to you to make it happy no one else can do that for you.
2006-10-02 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if your husband was doing the same to you? or if you had a brother whose wife is doing the same things to him, or your mother doing this to your father??? your feelings are selfish and you are making excuses for your position in life. you can tell this guy anything b/c he really can't break your heart and you know you have your husband if things don't work out. This is a dangerous game you are playing and you are definitely not seeing the consequences of your actions. this guy is going to tell you everything you want to hear to justify your actions.
2006-10-02 06:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all .. yes .. it's cheating .. doing, saying, writing ANYTHING you wouldn't if your hubby was right there with you is cheating ... please talk to your husband about this ... deception is dangerous in a relationship ... especially for you ... this man you have met online could be married with 5 kids ya know ... the reason you communication and sexlife with hubby is gone is becasue you have allowed another man to take up space in your heart and mind and soul where your hubby used to be .. PLEASE talk to your husband ... I beg you ... I lost an amazing, sweet, loyal, darling husband over the exact same thing ... please???
2006-10-02 06:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Brooklyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby! ok..past is past .leave the other man
have an open discussion with ur hubby
there are plenty of ways to strengthen ur love with hubby
2006-10-02 05:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋