i'm pregnet adn i'm only 13 teen years old
2006-10-02 05:43:16 · 49 answers · asked by Shamika S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hello Shamika,
I know you are scared. It's a very normal reaction. I'd like you to focus on the positive things about all of this. God really does only give us what we can handle. Your pregnancy is a gift and although it's hard to see all of that right now ... you will in the future. It is difficult raising children in today's world. Many years ago it was common for 13 year olds to be married and starting their families. But, it is much different now. That doesn't mean you can't do it. The hardest obstacle you are facing now is telling your parents. You are in a position that demands responsibility and you need to show your parents how responsible you are. I'd talk with the father (if that's a reasonable quest) and plan what roles each of you will have. Be realistic because you will have to attend school. Then approach your parents with the solutions that you have agreed on. Your parents will be a large part of the process and I know they love you. They will be angry and hurt at first but believe me... that will end before you know it and everyone will be focusing on the positive points. You are going to have a beautiful little baby. She/he will depend on you and love you unconditionally. And will remain loving you as long as you take care of him/her. At your age it is hard to adjust from being a child to being a mama in such a short amount of time. But there is a reason you were blessed with this gift and you'll do great! Just remember that you are that child's mama and you do what you feel is right within reason. And please don't forget to consider all the people who help you and love you. They will be giving up much to help you. And as long as you consider them and don't expect them to take on your role as the mother they will do it happily. Congratulations! Good luck to you and God bless!
2006-10-02 07:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all of those evil freaks who are putting you down! We ALL make bad decisions sometimes. Noone has a right to judge you that way! You really should talk to your parents, but I know that's not always an option. You are a kid and you need help. Look in your local yellow pages in the phone book under "pregnancy", or "adoption alternatives", or "abortion alternatives". There are hundreds of organizations that exist for people just like you. You're not the first one to find yourself in this situation, and you won't be the last. Thats why there are so many places that exist to help you. Some are religious, some aren't. They won't tell your parents anything if you don't want them to. You need an adult with experience to help you. Hell, I'd talk to you. You're NOT a bad person! You just made a less than perfect decision, which is pretty damn normal, especially for a girl your age! Good Luck.
2006-10-02 07:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by mollydolly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH my friggin god first tell ur parents they'll just get pissed at u if u don't then again they'll probably be pissed anyway but this way theyll be less pissed and u can both figure it out from there but if u feel that this way won't work u can gain lots a wieght so that it won't be noticeable then u can have the baby put it up 4 adoption then loose the wieght but the 1 suggestion is the best in my opinion Good luck to u and ur child (also get someone to kick the jack a ss who made u pregnant cause u don't deserve this) hope i helped
2006-10-02 11:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by indiadeknowitall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd stay in school, so that your spelling and grammar can improve.
Secondly, you should definitely tell your parents. They will probably be upset at first, but then they'll be satisfied that you at least told them instead of hiding it (which wouldn't really be useful anyways, because they'd eventually find out.)
Thirdly, you should give birth to the baby. This way, you'll do a number of good things such as...
> having the ability to give birth in the future. If you abort, then you'll put your own health in danger. Others consider this murder.
> learning a lesson: not to have sex until you are married, or at least older.
> you'll give an unfortunate family a chance to rear a child. They will feel happy.
> you'll be satisfied that you made another family happy.
2006-10-02 07:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Zαrα Mikαzuki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is not a negative thing, actually. Society makes it look negative due to the age of the one who is pregnant. You made a terrible mistake by having unprotected sex or whatever so now it's time to step up to the plate and take care of business. Tell your family. Tell the boy. Make him step up and be there for you. I am 18. I got pregnant when i was seventeen and it has not been an easy route but you'll be okay. Trust me
2006-10-02 06:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by lil momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 10:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by pachter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As scary as it sounds, you need to talk to your parents. They may be angry but they love you, and they can help you make the best decision for you. You have to do what is going to be best for you...don't worry about what other people would do, you (with your parents help and guidance) are the only one that can really decide what is best right now...whether that is not having this baby, giving it up for adoption, or raising it with your parents help. Do what is right for you, and use condoms from now on so you don't end up pregnant again or with a disease. *BIG HUG* Its all going to work out OK
2006-10-02 07:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought before you did. You need to tell your parents and give this child up for adoption. You are just a child. You need to think of this child's best interest. And keep your legs closed until you are married. This is why you should only have sex when you are married. So that you don't have to worry about having a child out of wed lock.
2006-10-02 06:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents. It may make you nervous and they may be mad but they can help. Go get WIC and/or Medicade and go see a doctor! That's horriable. Don't abort the baby, you did the deed, now you need to take care of it. It would not be fair to that unborn child you made because you wanted to have a little fun. But, if they don't already know, talk to your parents FIRST!
2006-10-02 06:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even have the thought of pulling down your pants at your age. Hell, I think that I was just coming out of the Barbie stage. I'm not sure about talking to your parents. You would think that if they took part in your daily life, they would have been teaching you these things LONG ago. I would talk with a counselor at school. You're going to have one very rough life.
2006-10-02 06:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by sweettooth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋