My husband and I went to his fifteen year reunion. His brother went with us. I was standing with my husbands wife looking at pictures when my husbands brother grabed my breast. I slapped his hand and told him that I didn't play those kind of games. Then he went to reach for my private area and I told him that I would hit him were it hurt. That he better stop. When I found my husband and told him what happen he acted as if it was no big deal. I was hurt by the fact that his brother did this but I was more hurt by how my husband acted to the whole situation. Do I have a right to be mad at my husband?
2006-10-02 05:38:43 · 32 answers · asked by Tammy L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What I meant to write was: I was standing by my husband' brother's wife. my husband only has one wife
2006-10-02 05:47:48 · update #1
ABSOLUTELY.
If I was you, I'd divorce the guy on the spot.
One of the main things about families is that everything is kept "under the bridge" most of the time, and hiding our family secrets isn't necessarily always the best solution to anything.
So yes, you're mad for a VERY GOOD REASON.
Now, you have to consider: is this any good for you? Will you run into more situations like this?
I have an uncle who molested one of my little cousins. When my little cousins' father found out, he did like your husband; he did nothing.
And so I got a bunch of guys together and we beat the crap out of the uncle that molested my cousin.
And we got our cousin into college even when she didn't even had the money.
She doesn't visit her father anymore. And my bastard uncle knows not to do that again.
So trust me when I say that the most disgusting things in life can happen and, in the name of the family, things will be kept hidden.
But this doesn't mean they are allowed, good, or even legal and understandable. You're not being unreasonable.
You're being real.
And having your husband's brother molest you is real.
And having your husband not defend you is real.
And if you married this guy to take care of you as you take care of him, and he doesn't, that's real.
And he isn't keeping his end of the bargain. He is choosing to protect his brother.
He isn't married to his brother, you know?
He's married to you. And you have the distinction of being able to do something about your relationship to him.
You can choose to leave.
2006-10-02 05:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you should feel upset for what happened it is not an unusual response between siblings. Blood relatives, especially brother's, tend to have relationships where it is all or nothing. In the case no nothing, the reaction would have most likely been loud and/or violent. Where the relationship is all, very little could happen that would spark a reaction, everything would be chalked up to "that's just the way he is".
Personally, if my brother tried something like that he would have needed someone to call 911, but then again, I have little to no use for him in the first place and he knows that.
Good Luck...
2006-10-02 06:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by jvano35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, as a man I can tell you, you have every right to be mad at him. A real man would step up and confront his brother, by possibly beating the you know what out of him for what he did. He has no right to insult you or his own brother.
I am so sorry to hear about this event and it can definitely be labeled as sexual harrassment. You did the right thing.
Good Luck
2006-10-02 05:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you have a right to be mad! and i think your husband is in shock, to where you might not realize it but he's thinking about it constantly. you brother in law needs to be humiliated and from now no you dont allow him in your home. and if he does come over because your husband lets him in, you leave. basically you seperate yourself from him at all times. this will give your husband a clue as to how disrespected you are. unless these are hilly billies from the jerry springer show his behavior and your husband's response is NOT NORMAL!! infact get your husband where it hurts, ask him if it would mean something if you were actually turned on by the come on. ask him if he would like it if you came on to his brother in the same manner. if he says no he wouldnt like it then ask him what's the difference. remind him that any kind of behavior like that is disrespectful to your body, to your vows and to your relationship with his brother. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-02 05:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have a right to be mad at the husband. I would make the brother pay.
2006-10-02 05:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yes!! is your husband intimidated by his brother, or is it one of those jacked up families where they stick together no matter if uncle joe just got caught humping the neighbors dog? if so that could be why your hubby hasn;t said anything to his bro. I would talk to hubby, and lay some law down. if it were to continue i would press charges and or just leave,. or carry a tazer around not one of those cheap ones but one that pumps out enough juice that it will knock down a charging rhino, and the next time the bro tries to make some moves zap him and when he falls down just whup the hell out of him, and hopefully he may get the idea after that. if not just get the hell away from that crazy *** family
2006-10-02 05:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him in front of your husband that you will have him arrested next time he does it. AND THEN HAVE HIM ARRESTED. better yet, file a police report. Tell him if he does it again you will file ANOTHER one and take those two reports to the prosecuting attorneys office and have his perverted *** arrested. All this is no charge. Also I woul dseek a good divorce attorney because it sounds like you are married to a lunatic
2006-10-02 05:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
S*iT yeah !!! dump your hubbie He is sapose to protect you not be a whimp.....What a way to find out that your husband dose not have balls. I would not even take a sorry what should I have done.
Now on the other hand my husband would have tried to kill his bro thats not kool either.
2006-10-02 05:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do have a right to be mad.. if you husband does not stand up for you...then next time kick his brother
2006-10-02 05:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be so pissed at my husband it wouldn't be funny. Your husband should have told his brother to keep his hands off of you or he would kick his a-s-s.
Yes you have the right to be mad and the right to protect yourself. the next time, kick him in the balls.
2006-10-02 06:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋