We have talked about it a lot, and I think we could handle it. Just wanting some random advice...... Just dont want to do any harm to a great marriage. We are both really open minded, and this isnt a far stretch for us anyways.
2006-10-02 05:35:16 · 26 answers · asked by Trying 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-02 05:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the fantasy of a threesome is better than the real thing. Before you bring another person into the bedroom, try other things, like watching a threesome porno, playing characters, or trying new sex toys. If these help to spice things up, then you may not need to have a threesome. I would definitely wait and look at all options, and gather as much information as you can before you jump into something like this, because you don't want to regret anything.
2006-10-02 12:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes in a committed relationship usually end up in disaster.
Why? because one of you is going to start wondering about the other one.. they will wonder if they enjoyed it more than they should have and if they will start prefering the third person (or the third person's gender) over them. If they will start doing this activity without them.
I have never yet seen this work out. the best time to try threesoms is when you are single and dating and don't have and expectations or attachements to someone else. Once the "comitted relationship" enters into the mix... it all falls apart..
sorry.. i know you were looking for a "go do it dude" answer... :(
2006-10-02 12:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being bi and my husband not having a threesome, well i pulled on off for him. You definitly have to be carefull in whom you choose. Of course because of STD's! If she knows anyone whom is bi or a friend or something I would suggest that. Being only because use know her! Jealousy will be brought about if you tend to one women more then the other no matter what your wife says. So do your right and get em both good make sure you show your wife that little extra attention! But most off all its going to be a beautiful thing if done right!
But remember once you have one will definitly want it again!
Not all of them end in disaster. For most part its the wife whom get jealous because of lack of attention on her! Of course because men tend to get so caught up in the new naked body they tend to forget about the one whom made it happen. Dont be a fool and do this... Of course the other women needs attention as well its a threesome.!! Definitly set up some bounderies, like what expected after this as far as comminication with the other women.!
2006-10-02 12:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think each couples experience is very different since each couples relationship is very different. The main thing is that in talking this out you cover all your bases. Is this a one time thing? Will it be just her and the girl or will you participate, and if so to what extent? What happens if one of you decides suddenly that they don't want this to happen? What happens if after this one of you wants to continue this lifestyle and the other one doesn't? What if one of you falls in love with this girl?
I don't think anything can fully prepare you for the emotions of the moment but you can at least try. Just remember, this is a huge step that as you say can really harm your marriage.
2006-10-02 12:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesome with another woman is not a bad idea. But keep in mind that whatever you do do not do anything with the third woman. Just have her get intimate with your wife. Let your wife have the pleasure of another female. You stay away from the third woman. Be as intimate with your wife.
2006-10-02 12:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work out great, just go into it with your eyes open. Find a woman who is comfortable with both of you. Make rules between you and your wife about what is not to happen. If the event happens, dont ignore your wife, make sure she knows that she is loved. Dont ignore the other woman either, make her feel welcome.
Talk about it many, many, many times before proceeding. Good luck
2006-10-02 12:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by cynner942000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you and your spouse handle it. Handle it poorly and you'll be dealing with jealousy, conflict, and attachment injuries for some time. Handle it well and it can be the beginning of an open marriage. My spouse and I have been happily and openly married for 23 years, and we plan to continue being openly married until we die. It works for us. But it has been just that...extra work. You have to be more proactive in maintaining the health of your marriage while simultaneously managing the problems that inevitably arise from extramarital sexual relationships. But, at least in our case, the freedom and fulfillment we get from open marriage outweighs the extra effort.
2006-10-05 17:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by kc62301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you get started with a threesome the chances are your mar rage is going down the drain unless you can stand sharing your wife with other woman. the next thing will be with other men and how are you going to like that....remember you might handle it in the beginning but it will ware off as your wife wants it more and more with different people
2006-10-02 12:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by oyster bay bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,go for it it is a new wonderfull experience if u both agreed and r willing to do it with open mind and complete trust,the secret in this experience to do it safely is trust,complete trust with each other that u both love each other and will not cheat each other after that,try to pick up a close friend to ur wife or a mutual friend whom u know is open minded like u r,and be completely honest with each other about what is going to happen,coz jeaulsy is like the main issue her,ur wife must be prepared for the feelings about her husband do another woman under her own sight,the mix of feeling is the main factor in this experience,trust is the key for pass,good luck
2006-10-02 12:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats what youre into, I'd say go for it. Flip side is my girlfriend and her husband tried it and she said she became jealous, couldnt handle seeing her husband all over the other woman. Not saying that will happen to you, just putting it out there. I suggest you pay more attention to your wife than the other woman of course. Good luck and have fun.
2006-10-02 12:48:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋