It's been over 11 years since I last saw him. We were good friends as young children and we were also emotionally involved with each other all throughout our teenage years. Therefore, he's been important in my life and he continues to be someone that I care about! I wrote to him over two years ago. No response. I wrote him an e-mail two days ago. No response. His mother and I are friends and correspond with each other, so I know through her that he's alive and well. I don't know why he won't have the courtesy to at least show any sort of response to my friendly efforts to correspond with him. I feel that it's disrespectful to ignore another person's letters/e-mails, and I don't know why someone that I have such a long history with would act like this.
2006-10-02 05:27:03 · 9 answers · asked by Fuzzyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i've edited the details due to your responses:
i've only tried contacting him twice in the past 11 years...i don't see how that could be stalking behavior. he has done nothing to contact me and he has not responded to my two attempts at all, so i don't understand why he would be hurt by my only trying to contact him twice. he was sort-of my boyfriend/friend all throughout our teenage years. i can't imagine why he'd think i want to rekindle a flame with him though, since it's been so long and we're both different people now and i live halfway around the world from him! he remains someone i care about, though, and i wish i could hear from him. obviously, i just need to let go of it though.
2006-10-02 07:06:10 · update #1
Well, it sounds like you have have the utmost attempt, I would say he doesn't wish to be in contact right now.
If you are positive you have the correct email address, and that he does indeed check his mail.... he apparently doesn't feel like responding for one reason or another. Is he married or have a girlfiend? Maybe he feels it isnt right to contact you while in a relationship?
It is sad, however some people move on.
Best of luck
2006-10-02 05:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe wondering why you keep attempting to make a connection when there is obviously nothing there now. It doesn't matter what his reasons are. If you contact someone once or twice and you don't hear anything back, don't question it and move on. It may not even be anything you've done. Keep your relationship with his mom, but let him go without any bitterness. Who knows if you don't push, then it may even turn into a reunion later. But with each push you're amking it more and more awkward for the both of you. (and the mom)
2006-10-02 05:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to be cold about this, but to me it sounds like he doesn't want to know you anymore. And you began trying to contact him over two years ago, but have all the while been communicating with his mom? I don't understand. Are you saying you let 9 years go with no attempts at communication and are now upset that he doesn't want to speak with you?
2006-10-02 05:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Born In Cheese Cloth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..........maybe your old friend has decided that he doesn't want to talk to you. Why worry yourself sick over what someone from your past is doing when you should be taking care of the present? Don't beat a dead dog and get the hell on with your life. Never try to interject yourself into someone's life if they didn't invite you there.
2006-10-02 05:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is with someone else. Very likely someone who is very jaelous. Or he may think you want something more and he does not want to misslead you.
If you tried and he doesnt reply your email/calls/stalking attemps you need to back off and move on. He is not how he used to be, he has changed and you need to stop living in the past.
Sorry. You need to move on
2006-10-02 05:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can only mean two things (1) you mit done something to him without know it for example dating the girl he nice if you both are male lol or you both done something that he hate now like sleep with each other or maybe you got the wrong address and email id check it up you never know
2006-10-02 05:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants his space right now. I would email him one more time let him know how you feel and ask him to plase email you back and let you know whats going on. Thats all that you can do and ask him if he wants you to leave him alone....if he does respect his wishes and when hes ready he'll contact you.
2006-10-02 05:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he just doesn't want anything to do with you. I think you should just write him off and forget about it.
2006-10-02 05:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋