okay, this is driving me crazy. My boyfriend was messing with this girl before we got back together. now shes pregnant and due any day now... long enough for this to be his baby. She told my brother that this was trents (myboyfriend) baby. My brother didnt tell me this and shes been giving him stuff like pills and stuff behind my back and i didnt know until my brothers girlfriend told me today (she told me all this) then i called my brother and he said "it isnt any of his business". I dont think i want to tell my boyfriend that i know this yet. or that im mad. but i told my brothers girlfriend about a couple times he cheated on her just to make it fair sense my brother didnt tell me that trent was sneaking behind my back to see this girl. what would u do? i told my brother to go tell that girl (because they live near each other) to call me. WHAT SHOULD I SAY? WHAT SHOULD I DO? leave him? talk to him? talk to her? get over it? leave all these people behind and move off? what should i do
2006-10-02 05:26:59 · 14 answers · asked by ThE GreAtEsT thEr eVer wAs! JaNa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you cant trust your boyfriend or your brother. i think you should talk to your boyfreind. tell him what you found out and how. then i would leave him for not telling you that he got another chick pregnant. that is crazy disrespect. do not stay with this guy! and tell ur bro to f-off because he should have told you as soon as he found out! you are family! of course it is his business. if the girl calls you just tell you who you are and ask her if her baby is your boyfriend's.
it also seems as if your boyfriend is not done with this girl. you should get out of the middle and maybe they can get back together. you do not want to split a family b4 it even begins!
but either way like you said:
leave all these people behind and move on.
get some friends and family you can trust! not those who will go behind your back!
good luck and im sorry for your situation
2006-10-02 05:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? And what kind of pills are u talking about? If this is your boyfriends baby then he needs to be there for that baby which means you are going to have to deal with this girl he cheated on you with. Do you really love him and does he really love you? You need to talk to him about this. You telling on your brother I am not so sure was a great idea, as they say blood is thicker than water, but then again his girlfriend does have the right to know that he was cheating on her. you all need to get together and talk this out and if ur boyfriend doesnt want to talk to you about it then leave him and move on. Pray that God will send you a CHRISTIAN man that will be true to you. best of luck
2006-10-02 12:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by ilove_arbonne3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH thats gotta hurt. I mean if use where broken up, face the music, use werent together! So this baby was not created on your time with trent! I would definitly ask this girl if she is positive its trents and if she is willing to get some test done to prove it is his child.. I mean its not just one sided here, your bf shouldve been honest with you when use started going back out, he sould of informed you of his little spermy sperms actions. This matter is of importance and will definitly affect your relationship together. You need to be pointing the finger at him as well not just her. Theres no point at yelling at her the deed is done. But as far as you trent goes, total comfrontation! As far as leaving him and all this, remember women do lie about who the father is! Hell some dont even know! Hang on to that! Until its proven its his child then try and work with it , if you love him. If you think you can stick to it then go for it.
But over all i would say wait for the test results I mean get em done then you know for sur where you and trent stand!
2006-10-02 12:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you want a relationship with trent then you need to be honest with him and tell him what you have heard and how you feel. A relationship is built on love and trust and if you don't know if you can trust him then there is really no place for your relationship to go.
Pray about it and then go to him and really listen to what he is saying...if he is guilty he might try to lie...you have to be able to follow your heart and gut even if it is not what you want to hear.
Best wishes!
2006-10-02 12:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to grow up. It was not your place to tell on your brother, it's not your business. I can see why your brother didn't tell you, it wasn't his place to tell you. You should get rid of this boyfriend of yours. He has not been honest with you, a relationship is nothing without honesty. I wouldn't even waste your time talking to this girl, she is caught in the middle too.
2006-10-02 12:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really know what you need to do.
I would leave, run. As fast as you can.
If possible move to a different city and leave all this drama behind you.
WHY would you want to live in a world like this? find someone new and start over.
2006-10-02 12:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the drama in your life and grow up a hell of a lot. This kid is not your problem nor your responsibility. Cut all ties and get a new boyfriend and start a new life. You are due for a change.
2006-10-02 12:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me u have to talk to your boyfriend,cause its really hard to fight to the other cause there's a innocent baby whoose involve. And better if you will just move out of them,especially if your bf is willing to be the father of the baby.You will sacrifice not for him not for the other girl but for the baby.Goodluck
2006-10-02 12:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some self respect for yourself & don't trust any of these people, and move on with your life. You don't need this in your life, ever!! Good luck, honey.
2006-10-02 12:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should all set down and talk about it if you love him enough . if not get over it their is better fish in the sea i promise .
2006-10-02 12:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋