my godsister had her "engagement party" over the weekend and I got a chance to meet her fiance's folks. She's actually living with them and his mother treats her like pure dogshit because she's half black, but here is thing the thing: so is he! his father was black and the mother is italian. During the entire weekend I watched her get ordered around like a dog by this lady who only seemed to be doing it to impress her friends. But the worst part is that my godsister paid over $1500 to take everyone out to dinner, including his mother and her family (13 of them) and while we were a black waitress came to bring us drinks & his mom turned to her and said "oh well atleast you're not the only token here". She got up & I found her in the bathroom crying like crazy and she broke down & told me this is how it is all the time & the fiance doesn't say anything about it! I was pissed and before leaving I let this lady have it. Should this guy do something to help her or atleast stand up for her?
2006-10-02 05:19:47 · 15 answers · asked by princesstheruler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also, my godsister just lost the last two member of her family within months, first her dad & then her grandmother & his mom also made cracks about who would she "pay" to walk her down the isle which I thoiught was dirty and lowdown....
2006-10-02 05:28:41 · update #1
If hes a mama's boy I wouldnt expect much from him. I would of defended my friend also kudos to you. They dude obviously needs a reality check and so does your friend. I mean does she actually wanna enter this family that are so ignorant and lame towards her. She definitly needs to come to terms with this matter BEFORE she gets married! Else its totaly gonna be just a waste of cash and time. Shes heading down heart break highway. IF her soon to be hubby has no intentions of defending his wife with his own mother doesnt say much for his dorky ***! He dont deserve her! So yes he sould of done something along time ago... your friend is obviously emitonally hurt by all this crap!!
2006-10-02 05:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by princesbubbleyum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he most certainly should have but it seems as though the mother will not change and so for the most part she needs to tell her fiance that she is moving out by hershelf with or without him until he can find a place for the both of them to live together without the mother. Either that or tell your goddaughter to have a discussion with her fiance and see if they can talk to the mother and see if she will change her attitude towards her but i doubt it. Good Luck
2006-10-02 05:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by just divorced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't stand up to mommy now, he never will. She needs to postpone the wedding and tell fiancee exactly why. She also needs to advise him to advise his racist mom that there will be no wedding unless his attitude and monster-in-laws attitude do an abupt turn around. She should plan life without him. I would tell fiancee to advise mom that she needs professional help, preferrably with a black counsellor..... Good luck, babe.
2006-10-02 05:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your god-sister shouldn't put up with this behavior. I don't care how much you love someone you don't let stuff like this occur. She should pack her bags and move out. As for the fiance, if he isn't willing to stop this behavior then he is even worse than his mom. Your god-sister needs to see that this is how life with him will forever be. I've stood up to my family and made it clear that the one thing they can never do if they want me in their life is to disrespect my wife.
2006-10-02 05:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one that can do something about this is her. She needs to leave him and move on. If he can stand by her side now, just imagine the future!
He is a coward as it is but your sister is also dumb for staying with someone who does not have a spine
2006-10-02 05:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes of course his fiancee have to the depend on the way his mother is treating her,why don't she fight back tell his soon to be mother inlaw that black is beautiful that's why you have 1 your life.she should show that she can fight back cause if she will just let her insult her like dat she will be use to it,and why she should stay with them anyway if his fiancee really love her they should move to other house after all he knows whats happening.We are all human created by God in his own image and likeness so we are all equal.she don't her the right to insult her,teach her how to fight back as long as she's not the one who started it.
2006-10-02 05:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. HE shouldn't do a thing. Your godsister on the other hand should leave this guy before they get married.
When you marry someone you also marry their family. I think she realized this that night and that is why she was so upset by it.
Tell her to call of the wedding.... NOW!!!!
2006-10-02 05:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The lady should do some serious soul searching (no pun intended) and decide what she wants her life to be like. She should let her finance know how she feels and if he can't handle it.....she should hit the road and don't look back. Pops
2006-10-02 05:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to check her fiance, and yes you should let the lady have it, she should have never felt like that at her own engagement party, I would have whooped her ***!
2006-10-02 05:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋