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my husband an i went to my first strip club last night and lets say it was a disaster. Well when we got there i felt really uncomftorable but i promised him that i would "try it" so i did. i couldnt take it after 20 minutes i had watched him have a lap dance and seen him get erect off of all these girls dancing on him (which NEVER happens when i do it). SO...i walked out and asked him to come with me ...but he said he was haing too much fun. So i went home by myself. He finally got in at about 200(i left around 1130)
when i asked what took him so long he ignored me and walked away from me. later in bed i asked what was wrong and he said that it was wrong for me to leave him like that...i thought that it was wrong for him to not leave with me...who is right? and what do you think that i should do! he is really mad at me
2006-10-02 05:16:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He wanted to share something with you of his that is obviously enjoys.
He also thought you would enjoy it too.. either by seeing what the girls do or actually enjoy the girls dancing!!!
So.. when you didn't enjoy it he felt betrayed.. that you were putting down somethning he has always wanted you to do with him.
OR......
He is just someone who is caught up with themselves and can't see past their own enjoyment.
It really doesn't matter which of the above it is. you two need to talk about this and his reasons for needing other women to touch him (lap dance) for him to enjoy himself. you also need to find out why he really brought you to the club.
Then.. you need to decide if this activity is reasonable for your marriage.. and if you can live with it. If you can't.. then you need to get out.
2006-10-02 05:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first I don't think you should have let your husband go to a strip club let alone go with him. You're only asking for trouble when you do that. Since you were a willing participant in the trip you can't really complain about what goes on. If you had reservations about going in the first place you should have made him understand that you didn't and would not go with him. If he insisted on going by himself then that's a different story, you can leave him after that. I personally think you are both wrong. You shouldn't have left him and he should have left with you.
2006-10-02 05:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by aguywithnothingbettertodo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an insenstive clod and a jerk. He should have had the common decency to leave with you. The fact that he won't get hard when you give him a lap dance is interesting. He definitely didn't show you any respect. Props to you for being open minded enough to go. Just let it go, he will get over it. Is there something lacking in the bed room between you to?
2006-10-02 05:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be really mad at him for wanting you to go if it isn't what you wanted to do. Maybe you should turn the tables on him take him to male strip club and have a guy give you a lap dance see how he likes it.
2006-10-02 05:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. You were cool enough to go to a strip club with him and watch him while he was have lap danses performed for him. If he really respected you he would not have brought you there i the first place. I think he's very selfish and needs to do some growing up.
2006-10-02 05:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything has its first. I went also to a stripclub with my ex boyfriend, But I make sure there is no physical contact between him and the stripper.
But a stripclub can be addictive to a man. I think you should just go with the flow have fun with your husband, but make some rules about physical contact and lap dances. Just tell him to imagine himself seeing you getting a lapdance from a man, so he will get the feeling what you are going throught.
2006-10-02 05:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jaelie Giselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he think was going to happen?
Did he expect you to get excited and have sex with him afterwards?
I commend you for going there at all - you fullfilled one of his fantasies. You gave it a try and it wasn't right for you.
You give your husband lap dances and he doesn't get arosed?
There is something wrong with this guy. I would be ecstatic to get lap dances from my wife.
If he truly loves you, he should have left the club with you. Now instead of being mad at you, he should be willing to fullfill one of your fantasies AND stop going to strip clubs.
2006-10-02 05:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Schlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of couple goes to a strip club together?
Maybe you should start questioning why you needed to do that in the first place.
2006-10-02 05:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie your both wrong.. Number one your husband should never taken you there, now the only thing your wrong for is going there in the first place, that's all.. your hubby should have known you were uncomfortable and taken you out.. as for the lap dance, not in front of you baby that's wrong 100%, You just stick to your guns and let him be mad...Your friend from Tennessee....ROB
2006-10-02 05:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He needs to be B&^%$ slapped, right in his mouth. I wish my Fiance would try and pull a stunt like that. He would have wished he never came home. Girl , if he was a real man, he wouldnt be takin his girlfriend to a strip club. Why would you want the one you love around stuff like that..That is just disgusting. If he feels he needs to still attend strip clubs , then he needs to be a single man, bcz thats the kinda stuff that single men do. If you dont slap him , I will do it for you girl!!!!
2006-10-02 05:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by saphire 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋