he gets really angry over stupid things sometimes and he gets mad if he loses a board game, he wants to change but dont know how to and he used to hit me and push but not any more and i always feel like i have to ask him if i am aloud to do something or go some where and when i try to have a conversation he usually dont want to talk aabout that subject and i want to have a child with him but i want him to treat me better first
2006-10-02 04:58:02 · 11 answers · asked by thugluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Red flag!
He has raised his hand to you in anger.
This put a stop to any plans for kids.
What happens if the baby cries too much or back talks him?
Not a good situation by any stretch of the imagination for a child to be brought in to or even raised in.
THINK ABOUT THIS!
You think you need to ask for permission to do something?
This is not a healthy relationship for either of you.
Once a man raises his hand in anger to you no matter how much he professes to love you.
He no longer has to right touch you.
He needs to go to counseling for a long time.
You need to find a man that will treat you well and has no misplaced anger issues.
Do you really wan to be staring at a hospital ceiling broke begging you family to let you live with them cause you can’t go back to you home?
Do you really want to flinch for you rest of you life any time any one moves their hands any where near you?
Don’t you want to be able to feel safe in the arms of the man you love?
2006-10-02 05:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You read it everyday and see on TV all the time. Get out. You can't change him but you can change you and the change you need to make is to walk away while you still can. If he wants help and he knows how he is then he must be the one to seek the help not you. Once a hitter always a hitter. If he has not hit you in a while then all that anger is building up, next time you won't be able to walk away. And there will be a next time.
2006-10-02 05:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. If he really wants to change, there are tons of people and programs out there to help people with anger management, and other issues. For the love of God, please don't just have a child with him, because you think that it will change him....Normally, a child only makes things worse. The last thing you need to do is try to raise a child in that kind of environment. If he doesn't want to get the help that he needs to manage his issues, the only thing left for you to do, is get out and move on before you get really hurt (emotionally, or physically) Godd luck in what ever you decide!
2006-10-02 05:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Repeat after me:
I can not change anyone but myself.
Say this 1000 times.
Then.. pack up and leave this guy. He will not be able to change unless HE does it. The best you can do is tell him he needs to see a councelor about his anger and to get back in touch with you after he has decided to do that and has completed a couple of years of treatment.
Walk away - while you are still able to.
2006-10-02 05:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him before he kills you or sets you on fire. If he really wants to change then he should go to some meetings for anger management. It's very sad though. You sound like a battered wife.
2006-10-02 05:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by peach49444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey sorry to say but you definately need to get out.... He's not going to change been there done that and don't think that once you get preggo it gets any better If anything it'll get worse.... BUT, If he really does show he wants to change he WILL go to anger management classes and NOT get mad at you whenever you bring it up. I wish you the best of luck
2006-10-02 05:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by rme g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets first be a friend with him and show him as a friend you would like to help him with his anger by supporting him in a anger management group so that he can deal with it properly. If you are in a relationship with him and he is shoving you and hitting you, you will fear him and that is no relationship whhats so ever.
2006-10-02 05:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by ABC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, there are so many good people in the world why settle?
Life is to short to be stuck with an abusive loser.
Leaving him might be the only thing that wakes him up.
Peace, and Good Luck!
2006-10-02 05:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he wont talk to you about it, you should maybe go to a doctor or someone who specializes in that kind of thing. ask them a few questions and they will probably do there best to help. and if you really love him then you will stick with him till the problem is over.
2006-10-02 05:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by rose5969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to anger management office in your area to start wit for some council
2006-10-02 05:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by demoheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋