he's just a friend but he's always trying to get me to have sex with him and he tries to make a move on me when noone's around I've tried telling him no but everytime I push him away he always comes back I don't want it to destroy our friendship but I think he's over doing it now.. help??? im only 13 and so is he, but i don't want to lose my virginity so soon!!!
2006-10-02 04:53:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
A friend should respect each others decision. Since he is not respecting yours, then he is not a friend. He just wanted to take advantage on you. He believes that you really value his friendship that's why he asked you because he knows that you will not tell anybody about it and he is safe. He knows it's wrong and I know that you know he is not worth to be a friend. Instead of supporting you, he is trying to destroy you. If he won't stop, tell him that you are not friends anymore and you are not hesitant to punch him. If it destroys your friendship, it's not your fault, and you have nothing to lose. In fact you gain...your own person.
2006-10-02 05:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Masyaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU don't have to do anything YOU don't want to. NO ONE should ever force you to do something you don't want to or what makes you uncomfortable. If he was a real friend then he would RESPECT your choice. NO is NO. You might be better off without him as a friend until he respects your choices. Losing your virginity is a special life changing event that you will remember for the rest of your life- don't make a rash decision when it comes to something as special and important as losing your virginity. It means so much more when it is with someone you love. Good Luck Sweetie.
2006-10-02 04:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by danicad134 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friend that you like him as a friend but that you are not interested in having him as a lover or sex partner. He is going thru early puberty, a lot of testosterone is being produced by his body and he is as a result sexually aroused a lot and obviously has developed a sexual interest in you. Also, don't be with him alone always have friends around etc. It is important to your friend that he learn the meaning of no. NO is not a bad word it keeps a lot of people out of trouble. If you are really good friends and have talked about sex before you need to tell him that he needs to get control of his penis and not let it run his life.
2006-10-02 09:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Geo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all..you shouldn't be worried about destroying your friendship with him..he's obviously not. But seeing that you still like him as a friend, I'll give you the folling tips: don't hang out with him alone and don't talk to him alone. If you have mutual friends..make sure they're always around or if you're on the phone with him..try to make it a three-way conversation. Good luck! This sounds like a scary situation. =/
2006-10-02 07:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by samantha_renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this guy into your house with no one around!! Tell your Mom or Dad what's going on. You're to young for sex, and way to young for someone to put pressure on you to have sex. If you don't feel comfortable telling your Mom or Dad. Tell one of the school counselors or a teacher. Things likes this have a way of turning into something nasty. Obviously you're smart enough to know you can't handle this situation on your own, so get some help. You'll be surprised at how adult everyone will think you are for asking for help when you need it.
2006-10-02 04:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by brillantnut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an old woman. Dude is not your friend! If someone is pressing you to do something you don't want to do, that is totally wrong. You don't need that kind of friendship. He seems like the type that if you did do it, it would be all over the school in no time. Give him some hand cream and tell him to take care of himself because you are never going any where near him like that!
Hold yourself and your body scared. WAIT
2006-10-02 05:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Plus Size Panther! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing right by staying strong and not giving in to that little bastard.. he is definaltly not a friend if he isnt respecting your boundires... tell someone you can trust to help you, you definatly dont want to loose your virginity to someone like that, sex is something you shoudl do when your ready and older and in love cause you will always remember the first time.. Instead of pushing him away next time kick that lil S.O.B in his balls.. that will teach him to think with those.. ha ha
2006-10-02 07:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT'S GOOD THAT YOU KEEP SAYING NO! do not let him peer pressure you into having sex with him. If he is a true friend he would have stopped when you first said no. I believe you are going to have to get mad at him so he will stop. If he does not stop then tell him that your friendship is over. A real friend would not peer pressure you into anything you would not want to do. He will get the point...DO NOT GIVE IN!
2006-10-02 05:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one destroying your friendship, not you. I know it's hard to do, but you just have to tell him straight out that you are not going to hang out with him anymore if he doesn't stop making moves. Tell him you are not interested in that kind of relationship with him and that if the two of you are going to remain friends, he is going to have to accept that and stop his inappropriate behavior. After that if he does not stop, don't hang around with him anymore, or at least don't put yourself in situations where you'll be alone with him. Good luck!
2006-10-02 04:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by amdstreit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋